I think there are all sorts of ways for someone to be fine with how SNW looks and how TOS looks. If someone wants to, they'll find a way that works for them. "Continuity and Canon are two different things" being the easiest way to solve it. I think the people who can't find a way for the two to co-exist don't want them to co-exist and don't want to find a way to resolve it in their head. They're frustrated because they want to be frustrated.