Or, and this will blow your mind, some people just set different standards than you do. I'm more worried about someone's intelligence and kindness than who they had sex with or what they may have done for a living. I have no moral or ethical problem with people who star in pornography. On the other hand, I do have a problem with people in the upper business class who screw people over. I think THEY are immoral in many cases and I wouldn't date someone like that.
Different standards for different people. You need to realize that you can't just make a blanket generalization and expect people to go along with it.
In theory, yes. But to most men it wouldn't matter what the reasoning was. If you were going to feel some form of jealousy, paranoia or any of that wonderfully panicy stuff, it wouldn't matter if she were forced at gunpoint. They'd still know.
I'd still stand by my initial comment thought that most people wouldn't actually know the answer to the original question until it happened. Hell, people have changed their mind on far less important subjects.
I'm unsure on that point - I have a good few friends in the adult/sex industry who value themselves a hell of a lot (one of them values herself way too much
).Though the not valuing yourself part of it - just go to a club and look around. You'll find plenty of people who value themselves a lot less than porn stars and they're just ordinary boring old people.
Again, we can have this conversation without name calling.
I do disagree, primarily because your premise is flawed. Why would you assume that somebody who has a lot of six doesn't value it? That's like saying I don't value books because I own many thousands of them.
Actually, that's more or less what I did say.I'd just be worried that after all those extermely well hung male porn stars she wouldn't feel me and then how would I live up to their standards
Finally someone who has the guts to say it. A very valid point.
I have to give credit where it's due.
I wouldn't date somebody who hurts people for a living, either. I'm definitely not going to argue the point that pornography is less harmful than corruption and greed in the workplace (though I can assure you the pornography industry is hardly immune from such a thing). A big problem is that there's nothing tasteful or artistic about modern pornography-- 99% of it is disgusting, objectifying and sexist. It's successful because people consume it. I'm arguing that a women who enters this world is doing so to her own detriment-- and that kind of woman carries a lot of baggage. The point of the thread was to ask, would I date this person? The answer is no. I've dated enough crazy to have to deal with the emotional insecurities of a girl who resorted to pornography to get through life. My argument is actually less moral-conservative and more feminist in nature-- it's an attack on the life-sucking industry, not necessarily the people who get caught in it.
Don't think your argument is feminist. Don't even go there.
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Knowing me though I would be upset and then feel bad for her and then think I am saving her by being with her. If I truly loved her then the answer is, I would be with her and love her the same.
Historically, Feminists have advocated sexual freedom, which includes both erotica and prostitution.
Exactly. It's also worth noting that there is a large amount of pornography out there that is geared for just women so contrary to common belief it's not just a male thing.
^Not all feminists. All of which only tangentially reflects on "feminists" views of pornography. You are certainly old enough to remember the strange bedfellows alliance of Values Conservatives and Radical Feminists during the late '70's, specifically against pretty much all forms of adult entertainment. People like MacKinnon and Dworkin spring to mind, but there was a whole movement (Woman Against Porn, or something like that).
For every woman that feels it may be liberating and a form of sexual expression free from the control of men, there is another that feels it demeans women (and men) and is a continuing form of patriarchal control of and violence against women. Certainly there is no broad consensus on this issue across the breadth of feminism, as your post implies.
Just sayin'.
It wouldn't bother me as long as she was no longer in porn and she had no STDs. I might be somewhat worried about her getting bored, since she would have likely seen and done it all.
Where the hell do you get this from this...
If she's done a movie or maybe two, I'd call it simply being adventurous. You seem to argue that this makes her a slut. I heartily disagree.
And don't give me that feminist argument you tried upthread. Feminists have advocated sexual freedom for all.
Same here.
I worked with a guy whose wife was cheating on him and he divorced her and she started doing online SM porn. I didnt beleive it until he showed me one of her clips and I was like, "DUDE! Thats your wife doing another dude while she is all tied up! I used to talk to her at the unit's Christmas parties!"
And now you know why she was so popular at those parties.
Actually she was a real nice lady and didnt stand out as a soon to be porno chick. Even in the pornos she looks like a housewife.
How is a soon to be porno chick suppose to look? Haven't you ever heard the phrase "it's always the quiet ones".
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