So is the reverse; assuming that someone with less (or no) sexual experience, who has more conservative attitudes towards such things, must be some kind of pathetic sexless loser - that's just as bigoted.
So is the reverse; assuming that someone with less (or no) sexual experience, who has more conservative attitudes towards such things, must be some kind of pathetic sexless loser - that's just as bigoted.
I agree completely.
I've heard this question asked before and the usual "Not really" with explanation responses. It'll always be different experiencing it than making a judgment call without any emotional involvement. A lot of people like to think they can rise above it in thery, in practice it's a different story and only few people can answer the questions honestly.
I've never really known anyone who has experienced that - apart from a mate who found out his dad was once a porn star, but that's a bit different
I agree. I shake my head and chuckle at the responses from those who "take the moral high ground" and claim they wouldn't have a problem with it..
This is why I love TrekBBS. Where else can you find someone who'll argue that a willingness to date a porn actress is "taking the moral high ground"? Priceless.
First of all, the scenario posed is actually - psychologically - nearly impossible.
If someone was - as some have said - casual enough about sex to take part willing in a porn film, they obviously would not be ashamed about it enough to keep it secret. To the contrary, it would - in most situations - be obvious.
To answer the question at hand, it would be a deal breaker. Porn star women don't make good middle to upper class wives and mothers. They make porn videos either because they want to, or because of desperation for cash. That means that they are either psychologically disturbed, or the sort that would never want to settle down.
Since my dream is to be successful in business, professional, and have a family one day, a porn star would be about the worst person I could get mixed up with.
If someone was - as some have said - casual enough about sex to take part willing in a porn film, they obviously would not be ashamed about it enough to keep it secret. To the contrary, it would - in most situations - be obvious.
To answer the question at hand, it would be a deal breaker. Porn star women don't make good middle to upper class wives and mothers. They make porn videos either because they want to, or because of desperation for cash. That means that they are either psychologically disturbed, or the sort that would never want to settle down.
Since my dream is to be successful in business, professional, and have a family one day, a porn star would be about the worst person I could get mixed up with.
Agreed on the first part, highly doubt the second.
I think that's an unfair generalization. But more to the point, not all of us are looking for "middle to upper class wives and mothers." Maybe some of us are looking for free-spirited soul-mates who have no interest in being shackled to someone else for life.
Swans may mate for life but some people are too complex for that. I don't look down on people who do seek that path. In fact, I'm glad for such people because they probably make the best parents. I know one such couple who I wish had been my parents. That path is not for me though and I wish other people would be more accepting of that.
Some of us don't want to settle down and raise fine children. It's not our calling. It would be better if people did not try to pressure us into such roles. We would probably not do well there and it would waste our true talents - being free spirits.
My comment about sexual history was meant to be a joke to lighten the air a bit-- unfortunately it seems to have backfired (though it looks like one or two people got it). It wasn't even directed at any one person . Relax, people!
Look, some people are comfortable with promiscuous histories-- some people aren't. There's no reason to be judgmental of either person.
. Relax, people!Look, some people are comfortable with promiscuous histories-- some people aren't. There's no reason to be judgmental of either person.
You're the one who came in here and claimed people who disagreed with you are sexless virgins and/or high school kids who don't know any better.
I wasn't being "disagreed with" I was being called bigoted and unfair for having that opinion lol. The latter was clearly a joke directed at no-one... the reactions to it are a bit surprising to me, honestly.
I'd wonder why she doesn't give a better blow job. Smack! Uh, sorry sweetie.
Well I know for a fact my girlfriend has worked on a few porn movies. She has a friend who does make-up and occasionally does porn movies. My GF did the hair. Haven't seen the flicks, but I am pretty sure she didn't join in.
Smack! Uh, sorry sweetie.Well I know for a fact my girlfriend has worked on a few porn movies. She has a friend who does make-up and occasionally does porn movies. My GF did the hair. Haven't seen the flicks, but I am pretty sure she didn't join in.
You're bigoted because you made this a moral issue.
I can accept that you are creeped-out by promiscuous woman no problem. Hell, I'm creeped-out by tapioca pudding. I hate the stuff. If someone held a gun to my head and demanded that I either eat tapioca pudding or my own feces, I would plead that he give me a minute to think about it. But I make no moral judgments against people who actually like tapioca pudding - because their like doesn't hurt me or anyone else. So why should you make a moral judgment against people who don't view sex as a sacred thing only to be shared between two people who make a life-long commitment to each other?
Wife Of Brian did two scenes in two different videos long before we got together.
No I will not tell you which ones.
It did come up in conversation and I was totally ok with it. Like has been said above you cannot undo the past, and if I had been bothered by it I would have missed out on a totally awesome person.
Tease!
You at least have to post a picture of WOB today so we can try and extrapolate back.
You are really putting words in my mouth. When did I make what you would qualify as a "moral judgment?" I do think that a woman who is objectified in pornography and then consumed by the horny populus is bound to become an empty shell of a person. I pity prostitutes and "pornstars" because there's nothing healthy about what they are doing physically or psychologically. That's hardly a "moral" judgement, it's a rational one.
"Consumed by the horny populus"? That sounds like a porn movie in itself!
You can rationally determine that someone can become "an empty shell of a person"?
No, sorry. It's very clearly a moral judgment. Pretty typical form of attacking the argument, too. Claim your position is fully rational and not a totally subjective value judgment. Nice try, but you can't get that crap past the radar here. 
An attractive woman is objectified and consumed by the horny populous all the time. I believe the colloquial term is "spank bank".
Really? Justify that.
I'll grant you that what they are doing is not conducive of them obtaining the lifestyle YOU seem to think is the ONE TRUE WAY.
The wholesome, monogamous (boring) life is not for everyone. For some of us, that lifestyle would not be physically or psychologicaly healthy because it is not us.
This is hilarious the responses I'm getting here. Most people are hardly innocents, they would just rather not be with complete and total sluts. That goes for men and women. Remember the OP is asking whether you are comfortable dating a person who has sex for a living. The fact that you are so intent on defending this point just tells me that your standards are very, very low. People who don't value sex don't value themselves-- disagree all you want.
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