Very well put.
I can't point to a specific scene, but seem to remember he displayed a lot of contempt for anything human (which - fair enough) and sometimes even stated it when Amanda was present. (Full disclosure, still loved him because the actor was great).
Sorry if I'm misremembering, but I do remember thinking: DUDE, why did you marry a human then?!
ETA: This thread is too long for me to get caught up on, so apologies if it's been suggested before, but I'm voting for Chock for Spock/ Chapel and Chock'ing for the triangle! (I almost wrote threesome, which... if it dissolves the triangle situation, I'm all for it! Or go for a thruple!)