If one of your parents died

[unimatrix7]

My mum died suddenly 10 months ago (10 months last monday, in fact) and one day I could theoretically be facing this situation.

But my dad is such an arsehole that nobody in their right minds would ever want to marry him. Even my mum hated him - she was planning on leaving him because he's an arrogant and self-absorbed jerk and he drinks (and has always drank) way too much. She loathed him and had already left him twice - but he has this odd way of convincing her that he's changed, so she came back both times.

Anyway, now that she's gone all he does is mope about the place. He still drinks too much, which is disgusting knowing how mum felt about him doing that. He just listens to this stupid Chris deBurgh music DVD over and over again, which is possibly the most mournful goddamn sound I've ever heard in my life. Me and him have never gotten along before she died, and we certainly don't get along now. He was always far more interested in my younger brother, who is very much the black sheep in the family.

Anyway, this is by way of saying that I don't think any sane woman would be interested in my father. Maybe back in the 70s or whenever, but not today. And if they were, I wouldn't care as long as he understood that it'd be a good enough reason for me to never have to see him or talk to him again.

 

[RJDiogenes]

There's no way either of my parents would remarry; neither one is capable of being in a normal relationship, especially at their age and after all these years. But I certainly wouldn't mind if it happened.

 

[Kelthaz]

I have no idea. I can't even imagine how I will react when one of my parents die, so imaging how I will feel if my surviving parent remarries is impossible. I hope that I would be okay with it, but it would probably bother me somewhat. Especially if I didn't like the person.

 

[Crusher Disciple]

If he's looking for a free ride he's going to be disappointed; my dad set up his estate to default to my sister and I in the event my mom remarries. My dad believed it was a husband's responsibility to care for a wife, therefore my mom's hypothetical new husband is to be responsible for her financial well being.

Your dad was effing brilliant.

 

[Bears Discover Fire]

If he's looking for a free ride he's going to be disappointed; my dad set up his estate to default to my sister and I in the event my mom remarries. My dad believed it was a husband's responsibility to care for a wife, therefore my mom's hypothetical new husband is to be responsible for her financial well being.

Your dad was effing brilliant.

My dad was old school.

 

[JiNX-01]

My mom died in 2003. Two weeks later one of my dad's oldest friends died. Dad started see the widow about a year later. First time I saw them holding hands while walking together, it weirded me out. I didn't actually object, mind you, it just gave me a moment.
They still see each other every day...

I don't know how I'd feel if they got married.

 

[Alpha_Geek]

How would you feel if a couple of years later your surviving parent remarried? Lets assume that the new spouse is a decent enough person.

My mom has been gone for 5 years now, and my dad had his first date since it happened just last week. Frankly, I'm estatic! My dad is too nice a man to be without a companion.

AG

 

[Maestro]

Ultimately, it would be their call, but I would expect my sister and I to be pretty involved in the "vetting" process.

 

[JimCasy]

My parents have been divorced since I was about 10, and my mom and dad have both been remarried. My dad has since gotten divorced again.

However, I don't think I'd have a problem with either of them remarrying, were they still married to each other and one of them died.

 

[The Boy Who Cried Worf]

I would be really weirded out by it mostly because my parents were married for 50 years before my father died and my mother is close to 80. I would just consider this guy some outsider. OTH though my grandfather did remarry when he was in his 70's after my grandmother died, but that was before I was born.

 

[K-Star]

We already joke around about dad marrying one of our friends who is going through divorce right now if mom were to die.

I dunno what would really happen, though, or how I'd feel about it.

 

[Jono]

One of my parents recent did pass away but my mum doesn't have a new partner. They were separated before he passed away as well. I wouldn't have a problem if my mum met someone and decided to get married if the guy was a decent bloke.

 

[Daneel]

Both of my parents are remarried.

So did they both die?

*rimtap*

Zombie Wedding!

I haven't really given it much thought, although, logically, assuming nothing serious (like an accident or sudden illness) happens, my mother will outlive my father by a considerable amount of time. She's nearly 15 years younger than him and in generally better health/shape. So if my father died... no, I don't think I'd object to my mom getting remarried. It would be a bit weird at first, but I think that would be an expected reaction from one of the children. I'm just not sure how easy it would be for her to find someone... she's kind of high-maintenance, and not always easy to live with. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom, but, well... let's just say I wouldn't want to marry someone like her.

If my mom died unexpectedly, I'd also be okay with my dad remarrying. He's a very jovial, friendly guy, and I think he deserves some happiness and companionship. I'm sure he wouldn't have too much trouble finding a new partner, if he wanted to do so after being widowed.

 

[Lindley]

My parents have been divorced for almost 10 years now. Both in decent health for now. My father is remarried----hence the divorce, actually----and I find his wife acceptable enough, although I'm just as glad I don't have to see her more than occasionally. My mother has remained alone so far....for a while I was fine with that, but now that both me and my brother are away most of the time, I think she could do with some company and wouldn't object if she started looking.

 

[propita]

My Dad died two years ago tomorrow (April 18).

Mom likely will live at least another 20yrs. She and Dad were married 49yrs, 8 months (Mom knows how many days).

If she met someone GOOD, I wouldn't stand in her way. As a law student, I would insist on proper legal precautions. Other than that, I want her to be happy. She loved Dad so much. She said time is making it harder, not easier.

 

[kitkat]

My dad died a few years ago, my mom is only 55 and I actually would love it if she found someone who made her happy. I've asked her about it though and she has stated that she has no interest in remarrying or even dating. My grandma and great-grandma were both the same way; they lost my grandfather and great-grandfather and neither seemed interested in marrying again. All 3 (my dad, grandpa and great-grandpa) were all sudden deaths so I'm assuming it was somewhat the shock of it all.

 

[Garrovick]

A couple of years? Whoa. After my Dad died, Mom remarried like within 8 months. To a close family friend. Dad was gone, was Mom supposed to stop her life too? Nope.

On the other hand, my wife died in1992 or was it 93. I'm still single in 2009.

 

[Rii]

Given that I've never had any conception of my parents as "together" I doubt the issue would even occur to me.

 

[WillsBabe]

How would you feel if a couple of years later your surviving parent remarried? Lets assume that the new spouse is a decent enough person.

My father died when I was 20, and by the time I was 22 my mother had re-married. I didn't mind, to be honest. He was a nice enough bloke and my parents' marriage hadn't been that fantastic. I understood that my mother was probably loney and needed a marriage. OTOH, I felt for those two individuals in their circumstances it would be a disaster, and I was right.

 

[Neopeius]

How would you feel if a couple of years later your surviving parent remarried? Lets assume that the new spouse is a decent enough person.

My parents died so long ago, I'm surprised people my age have parents. I'm amazed people like Obama have freaking living *grandparents*.

My mom would never have remarried. My father might have. And that'd be fine.