Congratulations, but most people who use the "Mary Sue" critique are, indeed, misogynists. Oh hogwash. It wasn't a Vulcan ship, and her arrogance isn't any less of a character flaw just because it would allegedly have been tolerated in a counterfactual scenario. "The Vulcan Hello"/"Battle at the Binary Stars" is very clear in establishing that Michael is a deeply flawed protagonist who will need to redeem herself from her horrible mistakes. That definitionally precludes her from being a Mary Sue. And I'll ask, once again: Who is Michael the author insert for if she's a Mary Sue? Here's some toilet paper to clean up all the shit you just spewed.