I wanted to address this, since you are the first person I’m seeing who said this. Did I miss this or did they explicitly state that Ake also spent those 17 years on Kasq? I was under the impression she didn’t and I think it would undercut the importance of the Doctor deciding to spend those 17 years with SAM.
Yeah, that’s a good way to put it. I just read Jammer’s review and while for me personally the episode and its emotional beats worked very well, I can totally see where he’s coming from with most points. The bottom line is just that where he can’t suspend his disbelief when it comes to the character’s emotional lives, I absolutely could.
Except she didn’t “write” any of what happened to the Doctor’s family. She merely introduced a randomized aspect to it. That’s literally the opposite of writing a specific outcome. But sure, you’re free to interpret the episode as incorrectly as you like.