I think there's an aspect of wondering why some of these things are necessary.
Like the changes to the Gorn, why choose to play with these story aspects that have these messy explanations for why things are different (i.e., they had to insert exposition for Sarah the Romulan in order to explain it ... somewhat) when arguably they could have told a similar story that introduces something new and gets to the same emotional place for the characters without having the distraction of how does this Khan fit with TOS Khan?
I mean everyone is coming up with these rationalizations for how all of this is supposed to work, when there's no reason why they needed to touch any of this to begin with. This is a new series that can tell its own stories with new characters and go to new places and introduce new things, but instead feels the need to namecheck and reinterpret past things. And unless that new interpretation is just amazing in comparison, I just wonder why do it?
I find that, for me, it becomes a distraction in what otherwise are good episodes of television.