Your Girlfriend Was In A Porno Movie!

[Jetfire]

What would you do if you found out that the person you were currently dating had done porn?

I personally would find it upsetting...I don't know if it would be a dealbreaker, it is close though.

 

[Mr. B]

If I found out "through the grapevine" rather than the girl herself, I would be rather miffed. I don't know if I would dump said person, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't start a relationship if I knew that in advance.

 

[Jetfire]

^

It would be after you had started a relationship with her.

Yes having the info in advance would be different.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

If she had done porn, but doesn't do it anymore, I wouldn't care much. As long as she didn't have a disease or anything. What's done is done. Can't change the past.

I wouldn't start a relationship if I knew that in advance.

If I knew in advance that she was in porn, I might. Provided she's clean (AFAIK, porn stars these days are regularly tested. At least I hope they are!), I think I could deal with it.

I mean, the sex they have onscreen is different - it's strictly business. They probably don't even get any pleasure from it, they do so much of it.

And in the end: No matter how many guys she's with in a movie...do any of them take her out for a nice dinner? Listen to her talk about her day? Tell her how much they love her? Comfort her when she's sad? Buy her flowers without provocation? No? Well there we are then.

If, OTOH, she starts doing porn AFTER we get together, and doesn't tell me...forget it. Kick her ass to the curb!

 

[FordSVT]

It would depend how I found out, what kind of and how much porn she was doing.

 

[Kirkman1987]

And in the end: No matter how many guys she's with in a movie...do any of them take her out for a nice dinner? Listen to her talk about her day? Tell her how much they love her? Comfort her when she's sad? Buy her flowers without provocation?.......QUOTE]

Yeah......lucky bastards

 

[Amaris]

What would you do if you found out that the person you were currently dating had done porn?

I personally would find it upsetting...I don't know if it would be a dealbreaker, it is close though.

If she's not doing it anymore, is clear of any diseases, and she loves me, I wouldn't have a problem.


J.

 

[cyph]

It's not completely out of the question in L.A., where lots of porn gets shot at. A friend in the industry said that it's hard for porn industry ppl to date others outside of the industry, simply because of jealousy and trust issues that come with their work. If I knew in advance, I suppose I'd continue with the relationship, and try hard to keep my cool knowing she's f*cking other guys, because that's her job. But even knowing that, I think it might get the best of me eventually, but if she's quite a woman, I might hold on.

If I found out mid-relationship, I suppose I can be understanding too, because not every porn actress may be the most comfortable admitting it, and again, how relationships with ppl outside of the porn industry tend to crumble because of trust and jealousy issues. I'd try to be understanding and take it from there...

btw: I forgot to mention, my friend said that though there may be heart aches at times, jealousy, resentment and trust issues that rise, a 3-some is always a phone call to her girlfriend away.

 

[Data Holmes]

What's the big deal... I just don't see it.

 

[Jono]

If I had to find out through other people I would be pissed that she didn't feel she could trust me to be able to handle the truth. It wouldn't be a deal breaker though, even if she was still in the industry. I'd then want to see everything she has perform in.

I would be a bit concerned about my friends as I have some very conservative friends and I have no doubt that if they knew she worked in porn or was still working in porn they would treat her differently. Not sure what I'd do about that. I'd leave it up to her whether she wanted to tell them or not.

 

[Colonel Green]

I'd probably be cool with it, although I would want to know why, given her history, she puts up such a fuss when I try to stick it in h.... well, you get the idea.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Presumably we're talking about hard-core, and not just soft-core or nudity. If it was a film, I wouldn't think much of it. If it was long-term or her career, I'd be bothered, only because I'd worry that she would become bored with me very quickly. Of course, I should probably worry about that under any circumstances....

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

I think it would be fucking hot! I could learn a thing or two.

 

[JuanBolio]

I think I'd be okay with it. I'd definitely want to see it, and maybe make some home movies of my our own. I don't really understand why anyone would be put off by it. Most people wouldn't object to a boyfriend of girlfriend having had a sex life before they came along... the only difference with porn would be that there's a video record of it.

 

[Lonemagpie]

It's not completely out of the question in L.A., where lots of porn gets shot at.

Damn, those anti-porn campaigners must be psychos there!

 

[JonathonWally]

She and I would then have a common frame of reference and could compare our "greatest hits" on the HDTV.

 

[jamestyler]

I've heard this question asked before and the usual "Not really" with explanation responses. It'll always be different experiencing it than making a judgment call without any emotional involvement. A lot of people like to think they can rise above it in thery, in practice it's a different story and only few people can answer the questions honestly.

I've never really known anyone who has experienced that - apart from a mate who found out his dad was once a porn star, but that's a bit different

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I see many pillows in various such productions. I can assure you that MY pillow isn't in any of them.

 

[Danoz]

What would you do if you found out that the person you were currently dating had done porn?

I personally would find it upsetting...I don't know if it would be a dealbreaker, it is close though.

Well, let's be clear, most pornography is just straight up prostitution spun in a different light. No, considering I am absolutely the jealous type when it comes to past relationships-- I would try move on and find somebody else.

Same thing I guess if I found out she had been with more guys that she could count on two hands and been "involved" with even more than that (grossed out, no longer attracted to this person).

 

[John Picard]

I've heard this question asked before and the usual "Not really" with explanation responses. It'll always be different experiencing it than making a judgment call without any emotional involvement. A lot of people like to think they can rise above it in thery, in practice it's a different story and only few people can answer the questions honestly.

I've never really known anyone who has experienced that - apart from a mate who found out his dad was once a porn star, but that's a bit different

I agree. I shake my head and chuckle at the responses from those who "take the moral high ground" and claim they wouldn't have a problem with it..