this is a bit off-topic but do we by any chance have any people of the Jewish persuasion posting here? I have two questions about Jewish funeral rites: 1) we have a tiny jewish cemetry here and some people piled stones on top of the tombstones. I am familiar with that custom only from stupas in the Himalayans. Do Jews do that as well or is it something un-Jewish and the stones ought to be removed from the tombstones? While on the one hand the cemetry managers are glad some people apparently mind, on the other hand they are uncertain if that particular practice mightn't be a desecration. 2) Also, would flowers on the graves ok? Most pics I googled show only lawn, but I have found 2 where there are graves like Christian ones, only with ivy and other evergreens. Is it just a coincidence or are flowers frowned upon?