Indeed. It's often treated as a black and white question when it comes down to "Maybe?" Like, maybe it matters how soon an alien race is introduced, but probably not.
But, I also am extremely simplistic: I take Vina's advice from "The Cage." "You'll feel it, that's what matters." That's want from Trek and what I have gotten more and more of since 09 and TOS: I feel engaged with the characters.
You know what's funny. I realized that how is how my wife and I can be at times, as we are both highly analytical overthinkers. So sometimes it is a lot of query/response dialog.
It works for me.
Setting her up? She was started with a huge tragedy!
I doubt you and your wife speak in one word exchange only.
Look I get what SNW was trying to do with the Spock/Tpring
Tpring in general has never been a fan favourite love interest for Spock and SNW so far does not do her any good. Honestly I would have love to have seen the sex scene of spock/tpring before Spike interrupted just for cringe/laugh if this was HBO may we would have.