Again: Everyone is criticizing what Yolanda "did wrong" ad nauseam, but nobody is talking about what Henry and Cindy did to her that was far more wrong!!! You're all kicking the victim when she's down and saying nothing against her victimizers, and that just preserves the imbalance of power. It's not the victim who should be criticized.
Actually, I brought that up too. Listen, the two things are not mutually exclusive. Yolanda did a very foolish thing, and though she didn't deserve what happened to her, it was a bad risk that she took where the worst case scenario did indeed happen.
She didn't deserve it, but she deserves her share of the blame.
However, at the same time, what her parents did to her was absolutely NOT appropriate. Did her parents have a right to punish her and be mad? Yes. Parenting does involve punishment and teaching lessons, but they went WAY too far. They practically disowned her.
If the goal of the parent is to care for and help a child grow into a good person, disowning her for a mistake where SHE is the big victim is terrible. She didn't kill anyone. She didn't commit a crime where someone else was the victim (maybe indecent exposure, but that's a stretch). The level of humiliation her daughter felt was enough punishment to last a lifetime, and there should have come a point where her parents forgave her and moved on. Where was the anger against the people that published the picture? The parents are acting as if they are not to blame.
And months later, when Yolanda begged for forgiveness, they didn't budge. It was hard to watch.
One can blame Yolanda for her mistake AND feel bad for her, especially with the way her parents didn't have her back at all.
