When I heard about the TROS spoilers and actually watched the film I wondered how diehard TLJ fans, like many of the official reviewers seemed to be, would handle it. And also some people who were so certain that what TLJ said about Rey's parentage would not be altered. I wonder if those people who criticized the 'vocal minority' of TLJ detractors two years ago now consider themselves part of a vocal minority or non-fans or toxic fans for not liking TROS? How would they feel when the shoe was on the other foot?
I agree with those who feel that TROS is a course correction from TLJ, in an attempt to get disenchanted fans back. However, it wasn't a complete retcon. TROS built even more on the bond between Rey and Ren. It kept her parents being 'nobody', from a certain point of view. Her parents so far don't even have names and Abrams made sure to say they were pretending to be nobodies, in an effort to have his cake and eat it too. Ren remained the leader of the First Order. Hux still conspired against him. Snoke is still dead. Luke is still dead, the First Order is still super powerful (even more so when it become the Final Order and I didn't get that impression in TFA). While the Rose/Finn relationship didn't go anywhere, they are still friends, and in real life, sometimes relationships don't work out. Plus, I never got much heat from Finn for Rose in TLJ anyway, with the interest coming more from Rose.
The end of TLJ didn't leave them with a lot of options. With Snoke dead and Ren in charge of the First Order, the war pretty much won, there was little place to go. Rey had already defeated Ren before so there wasn't much anticipation for a big showdown between them (even in TROS their lightsaber duels were overrated, and none were as thrilling as the TLJ throne room showdown-even though when I looked at that melee again, it wasn't as good as it was the first time I saw it). I don't know why we had to believe that Ren would know the truth about Rey's parents, that he was a reliable narrator. Plus, neither TLJ or TROS ever explained how he learned that information.