The Enterprise looks different, Pike doesn't dislike woman on his bridge, Kyle's an Asian guy and April is black, Spock and T'Pring are a thing instead of not seeing each other since they were 7. Uhura's a linguist instead of a technician. How is this a "different Praetor" when all those are the same/don't count/whatever? All they did is ignore one single gendered reference. It's far less in the grand scheme of things.
I genuinely do not understand where the line is between acceptable retcon and must be a different character because timeline