Any real person can seem to be completely different people at different times.
To this degree, over this short a period of time, with no apparent direct stimulus shown to cause the change, besides the stress everyone else was also under, which he previously had handled just fine? If that happened overnight I would question their mental state and certainly wouldn't leave them in command of a squadron or allow them to run around undermining my authority and endangering (in fact, destroying) almost the entire Resistance at every turn. And then still bizarrely leave him in a position of command even after all that.
Hasn't anyone in your life ever surprised you by revealing a facet of their personality that wasn't immediately apparent on the surface? Haven't you ever liked a person at first acquaintance only to discover later on that they have attitudes you can't stomach, or disliked a person at first but later come to understand that you'd misjudged them?
You have no idea.
For an example from my personal life, my Grandma went from being a kind old woman who always had buttermints in a crystal jar on a spotless table and who never cursed or had a harsh word to say about anyone, much less her grandkids, to cussing like a sailor and often cruelly lashing out with insults at her grandaughter/caretaker (my sister) and forgetting what year it was and that my grandpa was no longer alive. Of course, she has Alzheimer's and this change happened gradually over the course of a few years, not overnight. Which again, goes back to mental state.
According to
IMDb, Poe Dameron's screen time in
The Force Awakens is all of 8 minutes and 45 seconds. How well can you really get to know a person in 9 minutes?
By that rationale how well can we know ANY film or TV character? You spend an episode with them, and you've known them much less than an hour, even if far longer than that has transpired onscreen. A season, less than a day. Seven seasons, less than a week. A week is not enough time to get to know all aspects of someone if we're treating this like real life.
We've spent far less than a week of actual screen time getting to know Captain Picard through seven seasons and four movies, so if he suddenly showed up a mutinous, misogynist, incompetent in this new miniseries(?) without even the barest of explanations for the changes like we were given for his often significant behavioral changes in
Generations, First Contact, Insurrection, or
Nemesis (some of which still met with a lot of protest), you wouldn't object, because we can't possibly know the character? Why did people make a big deal out of his mid-life crisis, Prime Directive-violating, alien blasting dune buggy ride? And at least that was telegraphed by his shift from staid captain to action movie star over the course of the previous films.
Poe completely changed personality in a manner of hours without any specified stimulus, or at least none that weren't affecting everyone else too. Granted, we don't know him anywhere near as much as we know Picard, but no reasoning was given for him being a totally different person.
You're contradicting yourself here. Misogyny means hatred of women. Yet you're saying that Poe judges Holdo by different standards than he uses to judge Leia or Mothma. If his problem with Holdo is unique to her and not to other women, then how is that misogyny?
I didn't say anything about Poe's judgment of Mon Mothma, because she's not in the movie or even mentioned in it. I used her as an example of someone, like Padme, Leia, or Holdo, who led her people into combat or in military briefings while wearing elaborate finery. I was simply establishing that this is considered a fairly normal thing for commanders in the Star Wars universe to do, so Poe should have no reason to holdo that against Holdo, yet he does. So no, I didn't contradict myself, and I don't need to be told an overly simplistic definition of misogyny, thanks.
I also said that while Poe clearly likes Leia on an individual level (and respects her in TFA), TLJ Poe, who as I've said is virtually a different person, IMO, disrespects her authority and disobeys her direct order to return to base, getting his whole squadron killed, the first of his two mutinies against female commanders in the film. People who treat women like crap can still have women they've known personally who they appear to "like", but still treat with disrespect. A lot of misogynists still love their mothers and sisters, but also treat them as lesser people and disrespect their opinions. Racists can treat minorities like second class citizens but still be outwardly polite to people of color they've known for years, because "they're one of the good ones" in their warped minds. That kind of irrational and contradictory disconnect happens all the time.
Also, the misogyny thing was only one small aspect of an extensive overall argument that Poe becomes a drastically different character between TFA and TLJ:
https://www.trekbbs.com/threads/new...r-wars-resistance.293963/page-4#post-12533107
https://www.trekbbs.com/threads/new...r-wars-resistance.293963/page-5#post-12533912
But this has all pretty much seemed to boil down to a subjective judgment on whether or not his change between films was earned or justified, so I don't see much point in rehashing the same arguments over and over again. I've said my piece, and I don't know what else to add to it to convince anyone without just repeating myself.