I think you might be on to something there. Many of the criticisms I have seen against Abrams films is the fact that Kirk is presented as a "frat boy" and that doesn't sit well with the common view of Kirk and Spock. So, the idea of these being new characters, even if in the TOS era, different timeline, would probably have gone better. Again it speaks to the concept that Harve Bennett had of a Starfleet Academy movie, and how that might not have worked, due to perceptions of the crew already.I think why some people react so strongly to Abrams films is that they're rewriting established characters. If the characters were not called Kirk, Spock etc and the films were just colourful action adventures of some new crew, I don't think people who don't like the style of the films would mind that much. Sure, they still wouldn't like the films but they wouldn't hate them.
I think that part of it is that the Abrams' films challenges perception of Kirk, in particular, and if that's unsettling, then it's hard to get onboard with the rest of the film. I'll grant that the films have their weaknesses, but one common aspect of criticism and "hatred" (to use the term) is a lack of connection with the characters.
So, as a thought experiment, if Abrams' film's protagonist was Michael R. Ferrero, in the same film, would it work?