The first thing you learn when studying the craft of writing is to show, don't tell.
Sure, "Show, don't tell" is a basic tool of effective storytelling. So is "backstory," the story that happens before the story that is shown onscreen, the story that is
referenced by characters as the onscreen story unfolds.
Enterprise isn't the story of how Henry Archer got shafted, or how Jonathan became prejudiced against Vulcans. It's the story of the first Warp Five starship and her crew, and their adventures in space.
"Broken Bow" does indeed open with a bit of backstory being shown: the flashback scene of 9-year-old Jonny Archer and his dad, who is developing the Warp Five engine. References to "Ambassador Pointy," and conflicting statements about how helpful the Vulcans have been, which indicates not all is hunky-dory between humans and Vulcans.
Fast-forward 30 years, and we are shown Vulcans who are haughty, controlling, reluctant to give out info...and humans (not just Archer, but also Trip and Forrest, to name two) who are not fans of Vulcans. T'Pol is shown to be extremely judgmental of humans. And we learn at some point (I don't know which episode, I don't have them memorized) that Henry did not live to see his Warp Five engine realized.
Did I see every step in between that 30-year jump? No. But I didn't need a road map to figure out why Jon might be resentful of Vulcans for slowing things down, being too Big Brother, and keeping his dad from personally seeing his dream come to fruition. That one flashback scene even showed me that Henry didn't seem to have an ax to grind, and that Jon's resentment might be more that of a son hurting for his father, more emotionally driven.
The bland, off-hand remark young Jon makes in BB goes absolutely nowhere near explaining his conduct in adulthood. Even "Ambassador Pointy" struck me as more childish disrespect, rather than contempt rooted in a deeply felt justification for despising the Vulcans.
Archer's intense hatred of the Vulcans is an essential aspect of who he is and the man he will become. Seeing early on what happened to make him feel this way is important dramatically and for setting up his character.
Did we see the same 9-year-old kid? "contempt"..."despising"..."hatred"...I didn't take away any of that from the flashback scene. I think we have different interpretations of it.
I must admit, I never got that from grown-up Jon either, ever. I thought it was clear that he resented Vulcans, and why... but the words you use, I associate with red-faced, veins-bulging, gritted-teeth kind of behavior.
This is particularly true because the first time we see him with Vulcans, he tells a female half his size that he's resisting the temptation to "knock her on her ass." Hardly the behavior I would expect from an officer and a "gentleman" who has been tapped to serve as Earth's first "ambassador" to the greater galaxy.
Wellll, T'Pol isn't an elf. And Archer knows Vulcans are super-strong. I wasn't really tracking on size here, but the content and context of T'Pol's statement to him. The first time she speaks, it is to pass judgment on him.
That line serves as the "exclamation point" of a block of dialogue in which Archer's frustration is being highlighted.
FORREST: We may need to defer to their judgement.
ARCHER: We've been deferring to their judgement for a hundred years!
FORREST: Jon.
ARCHER: How much longer?
T'POL: Until you've proven you're ready,
ARCHER: Ready to what?
T'POL: To look beyond your provincial attitudes and volatile nature.
ARCHER: Volatile? You have no idea how much I'm restraining myself from knocking you on your ass.
Again, our interpretations of this last line are different, I think. I took it as Archer deliberately playing on the word "volatile" by saying something
volatile. I never thought he was seriously threatening her...just being the quintessential "volatile human" to make a point. He immediately changes the subject afterward, moving on to the Klingon and getting the ship ready.
He doesn't have to be noble and wonderful and perfect. He has to be sympathetic or his outbursts, petulance and disrepect toward Vulcans just make him look bad. This is particularly so when you're introducing a captain who hates Vulcans to fans (yes, the writers should have kept us in mind) who have liked Vulcans as far back as 1966. The whole idea of Vulcans as obstructionists was more alien to us than the aliens. It was essential that this trait in 22nd century Vulcans be credible, and the only way to make it credible was to show them in action early enough in Archer's history to explain his hostility, the roots of which were not evident from that scene in the opening of Broken Bow.
Outbursts...petulance...more stuff I didn't see. My husband read in a film comment article that film (and in this case, TV) serves as a Rorschacht test. What is onscreen is what it is, and remains unchanged, but it reveals all kinds of things about the different people who view it--their unique perspectives. That's certainly true for all of us!
Another way to look at the medical bay scene is to think that the Vulcans are acting like roadblocks and want the Klingon to croak, that Forrest is caught between a rock and a hard place and called Archer in because he secretly wants Archer to cause a stink, that Archer feels as if he's beating his head against a brick wall and this Vulcan whoever-she-is has no business judging him when she's never laid eyes on him...
The storytellers did something creative with the 22nd-century Vulcans. They're not the clearly identifiable "good guys" of the later series. They're in the way. They're obstacles. They're judgmental know-it-alls. They've been too hands-on, too restrictive. Humans are chafing under their patronage. All of this is laid out by the end of the medical bay scene, through dialogue and the behavior of the Vulcans and humans in this scene. And I haven't even mentioned Archer yet.
Either what was presented in that first act of "Broken Bow" works for you, or it doesn't. Happily for me, it worked for me just fine.