Wait, what?
Romantic?
He only knows her from a picture, never met her, right? That's not "romantic interest". That's "trying to get laid".
Need advice on introducing myself to a girl through facebook.
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Wait, what?
Romantic?
He only knows her from a picture, never met her, right? That's not "romantic interest". That's "trying to get laid".
I certainly hope you're not implying I'm a troll by comparing me to Jayson...I've been here for about ten years for crying out loud!
No, no trolling implied. But you do have to admit that your OP does read like one of his posts.
I'll take your word for it then. Been a long while since I read a Jayson post
Honestly, though: A random person on Facebook sending me an invite wouldn't really creep me out. I'd decline but if he told me he's a friend of somebody I'd just forget about it again.
People send random invites to distant relatives and friends of friends all the time.
People send random invites to distant relatives and friends of friends all the time.
I see your "Huh?" and raise a "What?"
I wouldn't think it was creepy necessarily. That would depend on other factors. I'd think it was desperate and silly, and would definitely not friend the person. But I'm like that whether there's romantic involvement or not. I'm not interested in collecting friends on Facebook. If someone wants to get to know me, they need to approach me and say that, not let some software do it for them.
So, about a year ago I'm commenting on a friend's FB post, and this gorgeous, curly-haired, blue-eyed, buxom, beautiful woman makes several interesting and amusing comments on said post (Or at least that was her avatar, subsequent picture posts have verified this).
I must get to know this woman. So I send her a friend request. A day later, she Inboxes me, wanting to know how she knows me. I lay it out for her on the up-and-up. She seemed interesting, she's a friend of a friend, and I thought her av was really beautiful.
We're 'Net chums now, to the point that our friend in common is bewildered at how we know each other.
Long story short, when she finally comes over and asks about your friend request (if she does), be honest.
I must get to know this woman. So I send her a friend request. A day later, she Inboxes me, wanting to know how she knows me. I lay it out for her on the up-and-up. She seemed interesting, she's a friend of a friend, and I thought her av was really beautiful.
We're 'Net chums now, to the point that our friend in common is bewildered at how we know each other.
Long story short, when she finally comes over and asks about your friend request (if she does), be honest.
I see your "Huh?" and raise a "What?"
Uhh, yeah. I'm not sure I get that either.
Then she will never learn the intent. I shall wait and meet her in person and go from there.
You're doing it wrong.
^^ Say what?
There was a time when "I've seen you around for a while and I wanted to meet you" was not considered stalking, but rather normal Human mating behavior. There's no reason why a friend request from a mutual friend on Facebook should be considered creepy.I see your "Huh?" and raise a "What?"
Uhh, yeah. I'm not sure I get that either.
I think there's a difference between "I've seen you around" and "I've been staring at your pictures on Facebook."^^ Say what?
There was a time when "I've seen you around for a while and I wanted to meet you" was not considered stalking, but rather normal Human mating behavior. There's no reason why a friend request from a mutual friend on Facebook should be considered creepy.I see your "Huh?" and raise a "What?"
Uhh, yeah. I'm not sure I get that either.
It's a brave new world. In any case, he saw the picture at his friend's house.
^^ Say what?
There was a time when "I've seen you around for a while and I wanted to meet you" was not considered stalking, but rather normal Human mating behavior. There's no reason why a friend request from a mutual friend on Facebook should be considered creepy.I see your "Huh?" and raise a "What?"
Uhh, yeah. I'm not sure I get that either.
Yes, but "I've seen you around" is something that happens out in the real world. That's not the same thing as trying to meet a girl you don't know through Facebook. And no, it's not the same as actually physically stalking someone, but that doesn't change the fact that it doesn't come off well at all as a way of meeting someone.
I dunno, am I the only girl who doesn't see every PM on a forum or every message on a social network as an attempt to hit on me?
I see your point, guys but I think you're overdoing it a bit. Or maybe I'm just not paranoic enough. I'm just genuinely interested in talking to people. I like conversations so I don't see everybody who approaches me as a creepy chainsaw murderer.
When you sent the friend request you should have included a friendly message that you and she have RL friends in common. That's what I did when I sent a friend request to Brent Spiner (and I'm now one of his 1800 friends
).
I'll be the party pooper and say that I'm one of those people who don't add people by association on my facebook. If I don't know you I won't add you because I do not feel comfortable having strangers know my personal info.
But, that girl maybe different, so it doesn't hurt to try. Just be prepared for douches like me.
But, that girl maybe different, so it doesn't hurt to try. Just be prepared for douches like me.
Oh, definitely not. It's all about intent, though, and there are definitely ways of doing so in a non-creepy manner. The random-friending-because-you-look-hot-in-a-picture method tends not to fall in that category, though.
I would recommend that you don't bother introducing yourself to any women online. Here is why,
1) Although some women are partial to having anonymous online friends, they will not appreciate your eventual romantic overtones. Facebook isn't a dating site, although in some rare occasions people have gotten together through facebook, its not going to happen when you've never met.
2) Its become something of a well known phenomenon that most men on the internet will eventually look for sexual content. Some men have no self control and/or are morally corrupted enough to con western women for their money. Cultures get stereotyped and men get vilified.
3) Unless you are using a dating website (thats whole purpose is to be used by men and women to contact men and women) online, you need to know that the internet cannot find you a love life.
Hope I wasn't too blunt there, but I cannot stand men making fools of themselves when it comes to women and online escapades. It makes my entire gender look bad and doesn't exactly dispell some well know stereotypes!
1) Although some women are partial to having anonymous online friends, they will not appreciate your eventual romantic overtones. Facebook isn't a dating site, although in some rare occasions people have gotten together through facebook, its not going to happen when you've never met.
2) Its become something of a well known phenomenon that most men on the internet will eventually look for sexual content. Some men have no self control and/or are morally corrupted enough to con western women for their money. Cultures get stereotyped and men get vilified.
3) Unless you are using a dating website (thats whole purpose is to be used by men and women to contact men and women) online, you need to know that the internet cannot find you a love life.
Hope I wasn't too blunt there, but I cannot stand men making fools of themselves when it comes to women and online escapades. It makes my entire gender look bad and doesn't exactly dispell some well know stereotypes!
I don't consider this douchey. I consider this perfectly normal and expected behavior.
Honestly, if I get a friend request from someone I don't know, I naturally assume it's spam, and I delete it.
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