Ah, that. I thought you might be referring to that.
I definitely drew the same conclusion on what was going on in that scene. But it seemed so much less... I dunno what the right word is, concerning? Non-kid-friendly?... than the events of The Southern Raiders or The Puppetmaster (for example). Suki sneaking into Sokka's tent to stay the night seemed pretty normal, especially since the show had been upping the romantic element between the older characters. And it was mostly played for laughs; it was there for those who knew what was going on, and in another show I might have wanted a bit more of a look at that decision, but the romantic relationships for the characters didn't get a lot of exploration. Well, except Aang and Katara to some extent. But this spoiler-tag comment is getting long enough now.
But remember, this is the United States, where we consider depictions of sexuality and open physical affection to be far more damaging to children than depictions of violence and cruelty. A scene of romance implicitly leading to sex is far more "adult" by American television standards than a scene of war or torture.
That makes sense I guess. So the culture continued developing the way it had already been, just with the bending amplifying it in some way.
But the point I'm making is, it's not just about culture, it's about spirituality. This is a fantasy universe based on Eastern philosophy, so the underlying explanations for how bending works are more spiritual than physical or sociological. It's not just about the development of their culture, but about the elemental affinities of their spiritual essence as a people. Just as the individual ability to bend isn't hereditary but has more to do with the individual's spiritual nature (e.g. Katara can waterbend and Sokka can't). It's not really something that can be explained in non-mystical terms.
Although that does seem to slightly conflict with "The Storm" when the monks talk about sending Aang to the Eastern Air Temple as being away from Monk Gyatso. Maybe there's more than one "band" of Air Nomads and they migrated from temple to temple, thus Aang was being sent to another "band"?
That would be my interpretation.