I'll take your word for it. I mean, I never thought he hated his wife or offspring, just that he had some serious unresolved issues!
My larger point, however, was that Amanda apparently completely adapted to Sarek's ... lifestyle/ life and that is fine if it's what she wanted, but shouldn't be a blueprint for every woman in a heterosexual relationship.
She isn't a real person, and she can't "want" anything. What she was depicted as doing was a reflection of the writers, and what they wanted.
As much as I love Spock and his issues with his dual heritage, the portrayal of his human mother's heritage being less important than his father's heritage is very much a reflection of the 1960s view towards women. The movies did slightly better, and DISCO tried to say that she was sharing her heritage, too. But even in DISCO, she is so subservient to her husband that she allows him to completetely screw up a human child by trying to force it to be Vulcan.
At the end of the day, I'd take a full reboot of the relationship between Spock, his mother, and his father to better explain his issues beyond "all of Amanda's culture and heritage were suppressed by her husband and she was cool with that."