I have read the post in question multiple times. There is no attack in it and it's not a disrespectful post either.
@dahj was asking a legitimate question that you apparently did not like. That does not make that question disrespectful.
Then I was being overly sensitive, and to
@dahj I apologize.
You're obviously free to beg to differ. I'm *telling you outright* that I wasn't skirting anything; I'm here to answer questions. I may be guilty of missing something or answering insufficiently, but I'm *not* deliberately avoiding anything.
1. You can't tell gender by looking at somebody. Do we still need to explain that in 2021?
2. "If it looks like a duck..." refers to species. I don't mind if you assume somebody's species on MA. Gender is different.
3. Going by what you see or hear on screen, you can't assume Adira is female. It's never stated that Adira is female. And as I said: You cannot tell gender by looking at somebody.
Yes, apparently you do. Why was this not an issue with the thousands of other character pages until Adira? If you want to be consistent, if you want to educate and not scold, you (or anyone else) could have brought up the point on MA at any point in the past, and we could've/would've had a discussion about the subject, and seen the error of our ways (i.e. we kept doing things the way we've always done them). Cisgender male geeks (i.e. me) tend to be clueless about some things (just ask my wife). With nobody to bring up the point, we did what we've always done. I don't know the gender of most of the editors on MA, but I *do* know there are both male and female editors. I don't know who (if anyone) is trans, or gay, or, black, or white, or whatever; I *do* know a few that are male, or female, or from Canada, or from the UK. *Nobody* ever raised the issue of gendering people by observation before Adira, among all the editors over the years, or even among the readers.
Once the issue *was* raised, we *did* realize we were being myopic (you can read that as bigoted, or transphobic, or whatever aspersions you care to cast) by assuming gender by observation (sometimes it takes a 2x4) and so we *removed gender from all of the sidebars*. But then we were accused of erasing, and overreacting, and trying to hide things, and more.