I always go with the old-fashioned notion that "every man has only two great loves, and one of them is his mother". However, since one of those 'matings' was involuntary, and the other was a "what If?" scenario, then that still applies - Paris had only one great love inside him; we just got to see two different timelines with that.
And so no, Tom is not Macho Douche. Indeed, his sensitivity and willingness to express his feelings counterbalance his occasional brashness quite well.
I know - I was being facetious. I love all those characters and don't think any of them are truly 'macho douches' LOL. In fact, Tucker even got 'knocked up' - it doesn't get
less macho than that. As I was typing that, it had dawned on me that we have seen him have children with THREE of his crewmates, which is indeed a bit of a record, I would think.
And since we are on this subject (sort of), how come Kes was part of the Year-of-Hell timeline (both versions), but left immediately after in the main timeline? Since we already saw her 'future' in the episode where she was time-hoping and married Tom, what changed? If the destruction of the Krenim ship reset everything, then we should have seen that exact timeline... but we didn't, we saw a completely different one. So why was Kes' personal timeline still thrown askew, when everyone else's (entire species!) was restored?
I know its bit OT, but it does impact the relationships Tom had, which this thread has broadened into (Voyager 'pairings' in general, and how 'forced' they feel). I liked Paris with Kes - I thought they made a cute couple, and he stood by her even when she got old & grey. It was sweet. Paris & B'lanna are both Alphas - that could never work, IMO.
And to bring this full back-around, I felt the C/7 thing was VERY forced. Chakotay and Janeway (Chakoway? Janeotay? LOL!) had great chemistry, I thought, and the two of them developing into something more over time made a lot of sense. What we got was illogical (unless that was the point - Love never makes sense - but thats a bit cerebral for ST these days).