What does this mean for us? Well it shows how having A-List writers and producers really helps a show out (i.e that 'Enterprise' could really have used a mind like Gordon's) and that even the most experienced and confident male writers know that it's a good idea to hire women to write romance.
What? I don't think that's necessarily true. I'm a chick, and though I think the romantic parts of shows are interesting, I'm not always about that. In TNG, I could've cared less if anyone had a relationship. In fact, I was rather glad they didn't.
I think writers should only introduce romance when it makes sense. For example, BSG is really annoying with their romance (to me). I think my like of various characters has fallen due to the will they/won't they factor. I kept telling the characters to act like adults.
X-Files is a great example of letting romance live in the audience's mind. Chris Carter made it required that no one write a romance, and yet I betcha most people believe Scully and Mulder were in love (even before William was born). I did, and I'm not about the romance. Friendship between a male and female character has wonderful overtones of romance without anyone drawing a big cirle and arrow around it.
Now don't get me wrong - I am not saying that women should be banned from Sci-Fi. The point is that all writers are good at different things, write about different themes etc. It's matching the most appropriate writers to your show that spells whether or not you'll get 'the magic'.
I've known some dudes who wrote decent romance and some women who couldn't if their life depended on it. Although you raise some intriguing points, I'd hate to think women are stereotyped to write romance and men are stereotyped to not write them. In point of fact, you're right -- Joss is a big girly man. More over, he's a dude who writes women better than many women writers. What do I mean, he treats them mostly like men -- they have passions, interests, missions, objectives, hurts, loves, losses, etc.
LOST and Galactica have flirted with having women on their writing staffs, but eventually they are left to be replaced with men. It's the same with most Sc-fi series (including Buffy actually) that when ratings start to slide, the producers return to their core base and hire staff to appeal to them - i.e to young and middle-aged men.
And 24 has never tried to hide that it is appealing primarily to a male audience. Running, jumping, fighting, shooting, exploding, torturing, gadgeting... It knows what its fan want and it gives it to them. And Howard Gordon and Robert Cochran et al have amassed a very impressive arsenal of writers - including Brannon Braga and Manny Coto!
It all just shows that however much I like Braga, some of his decisions as Showrunner were unfortunate and that he just didn't manage to hire enough heavy hitters to really give the show the boost it needed.
Reeves/Stevens was a good attempt. I think had they been allowed to do their own stuff without major re-writes, we'd see even better stuff from them (which is saying a lot). Sussman I think had a gun to his head about the romance, so to speak. I think oddly enough and to prove my point, when he wrote Twilight he decided there was friendship between Archer and T'Pol ... and that's why the episode works. To those who only want to see friendship, it's there. And for those who want to see more, that's there too.
I think women would be happy not to have romance unless it's done well. I guess that was my point. I'll admit, I liked the chemistry between Archer and T'Pol. I guess in "shipper" speak, I'm a first-time shipper: Archer/T'Pol is the first couple I actively supported. And yet, I was perfectly satisfied never to see anything culminate or show up. In other words, I'm okay that they remained only friends. I would've been disappointed if they'd approached a relationship between them and then did so shoddily. Friendship between males and females on television usually has romantic overtones anyway.