I've said it before and I'll say it again: Michael's conduct on the Butterfly People planet was fine. She communicated clearly and respectfully to them. The Butterfly People actively refused to listen to her and looked for an excuse to do violence against her.
Yup! There was no error on Michael’s part there. She wasn’t antagonistic, or flip, and the Alshain weren’t acting in good faith, and presuming/ascribing the worst intention to the Federation’s actions, actively ignoring what Michael said repeatedly.
They came in hostile and intent on refusing to listen, and Michael responded accordingly. They’re not ignoring or forgetting canon, there is nothing resembling a gotcha here, just a continual mischaracterization of what happened in the opening scene to fit a preconceived narrative.
We really don't know how badly the Federation acted leading up to and after The Burn™. Even the Vulcans took their leave of the Federation. I'd really like some information on that.
Then after The Burn™, anarchy and maybe no one knew why, so they probably blamed the Feds for that too.