I appreciate all the thoughtful replies to this thread. I guess I just felt like venting a bit. (Do you think? haha)
It's true that it would have been easier to make him just a "mini-Sisko", and that making him flawed like any adolescent and then teenager was more realistic. I'm just thinking of some moments where I wish someone had punched him:
1. When he was SUCH a cowardly crybaby in "Nor the Battle . . .". It's understandable that he'd be afraid, but he was just gutless and pouting to the point that if it were real life I just wouldn't respect him.
2. At dinner with Captain Sisko in their quarters when Cassidy is under suspicion of being a Maquis smuggler. Jake doesn't know this fact, but he repeatedly makes sexual innuendos to his Dad about why his Dad misses Cassidy (which is a weird thing for a son to do anyway), LONG PAST the point when Benjamin has made it clear that he is not amused by it. Finally Benjamin says "Alright, that's enough!" A very tempered response to such flagrantly annoying behavior by Jake.
3. When Captain Sisko is having the "visions" sent from the Prophets in the "Balhalla" (sp?) episode, Jake decides to have Bashir perform the surgery on his father that he knows will stop the visions, in direct defiance of his father's wishes. This may have been a realistic action, as it seems possible (tho far from certain) that Sisko would have died without the surgery, but Jake acted selfishly in making this decision. Major Kira basically said as much, and she was right.
4. "It's a Klingon bachelor party. Use your imagination." - Jake to Major Kira. Jake copped this line from Quark, and when he says it to Kira, she responds with nothing but a look of disdain. Deservedly.
SPIN
One can be idealistic without being naive.
And wasn't DS9 supposed to the be cynical Trek in any case?
And Jake isn't being true to any principles he remains on DS9 for no understandable reason other than the inherent risk of the action. Not only that but he isn't smart enough to understand that he can't write freely-he can't talk about Dominion "occupiers" even Weyoun tells him "look this isn't how things work, you can't use certain language." He chose to stay behind enemy lines as a journalist, yet didn't grasp that he couldn't write as if he was in San Francisco.
He asks Intendant Kira for help just as she is about kill him. He is so blinded by his desire to have his mother back(an understandable desire in every sense) he doesn't get that no not everyone is gentle and reasonable. Intendant Kira had just killed a child-Nog even after he helped her escape. The only reason the intendant spared his life is because she obviously enjoyed his father's company(among other things) if he wasn't Sisko's kid she would have shot him without a second thought. Even after she makes it clear she will expect some sort of repayment for her mercy in the future.
No matter what situation a kid grows up in, chances are, they'll still be kids. And kids tend to be impulsive, and think they're relatively invincible. I think he was written quite realistically, even if his courage might have exceeded his grasp.
He was a couple of years older than me when the show was on the air, but now, he certainly reminds me of some young people I know even in their 20s.
Even with the inappropriate jokes at dinner, the intent is to sound more grown up, but most kids that age lack the sensitivity to sense that their parents might be going through something stressful, so they may push the envelope a little more than they intend to. It takes years to learn those kinds of social skills, even for the most perceptive among us.
Not everyone wants to watch a kid learn those skills on television, but I liked him. He was generally a good kid who meant well, sometimes screwed up in realistic ways, but usually learned from those mistakes.