Jake played a believable, human child growing up in the semi- perfect 24th century. I like him.
OTOH Wesley Crusher was the Lassie of TNG
Wesley Crusher was more a "Mary Sue", or "Marty Stu" who feel that the same term cannot be used for everyone fitting the trope. A Mary Sue trope could do anything as needed to save the day. People say that of Picard as well, but when it's a teenager being written uncharacteristically like an adult with all the adults being written as third graders to make the teenager look "brilliant" as a result, it's safe to say nobody's going to buy into the story, much less relate to or - even more importantly - look up to any of the characters as a result. One of the better examples of this is "Datalore": A story with great potential but needed at least a second draft, if not a first draft, making it to the filming stage.
Jake and Ben often have far more realistic dialogue than the Crushers had, never mind Wesley being kid genius trope and all.
Jake and Ben even pretty much come across as the idyllic single parent/child relationship. In part partly because of the Crushers' less-than-developed relationship. The chemistry between Cirroc and Avery seems a bit more robust compared to Wil and Gates as well. Acting is one thing but there's something intangible yet tangible about on-screen chemistry that takes writing, no matter how good, and makes it great.
Having said that, Wesley is far more watchable in seasons 2 and 3. Bev almost had the EQ that the rest of the bridge crew lacked when it came to helping others and yet she seemed more ignorant of her own son (I'm trying to be objective, I'm more of a Pulaski fan.) Who could blame him for "Evolution" when he explodes over her not being there, which was extreme I agree, but she seems cognizant and even admits how she's there now. Their relationship improves from there on (And, yeah, Wes was unfair since she hadn't been there but the in-universe canon is that she left for a seemingly better job and he had issues subconsciously.)