Sorry if we haven't given you enough attention. 
I'm not in love, just because
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Sorry if we haven't given you enough attention.
I just told the truth. Sorry if it offends you.
Love is a many splendored and textured beast. Replete with shades of grey and a hundred complex layers that one can live an entire lifetime without fully comprehending. Love is meant to be confusing and mysterious and perplex humanity. That said: the best love is the kind that makes you feel all warm inside without any expectations of returning the favor.
Now, if you'll excuse me - I have two more volumes of Fists of Passion: The Knucklebanger Saga to watch.
Now, if you'll excuse me - I have two more volumes of Fists of Passion: The Knucklebanger Saga to watch.
It's amusingly ironic that I said earlier that my overconfidence rubs some people the wrong way, just to have some of you guys illustrating that very fact.
Anyway, I think I must be a little more explanatory about that. About that anecdote for example. I wasn't trying very hard to seduce that girl. I mean that guy was hovering around her like a vulture and she wasn't visibly very pleased by that. So I started talking to her in a lighthearted way. Making little jokes, roundabout compliments... that sort of thing.
So the guy seemed to think that she was sort of his personal property or about to be if you see what I mean. So first he tried to intimidate me (he was slightly bigger than I was but I could tell by the way he moved that he had no combat experience to speak of) so I just ignored him. And that's when he went physical and tried to push me. Without breaking a sweat (I mean after more than a decade of martial arts, Karate is my strong suit but like most people I practice several, I didn't have to think about it. It's like when you drive a car, you can do it while thinking of something else, same here) I immobilized him, in a way, that he was completely helpless, making him feel some pain but at the same time causing no damage whatsoever. I didn't say a word and just released him and continued as if nothing happened. This convinced him (since wasn't a complete idiot) that he was greatly outmatched and so he left.
There's nothing to it, really. I didn't think some of you would make such a big deal out of it. IMHO, you should get out more, or some.
Anyway, I think I must be a little more explanatory about that. About that anecdote for example. I wasn't trying very hard to seduce that girl. I mean that guy was hovering around her like a vulture and she wasn't visibly very pleased by that. So I started talking to her in a lighthearted way. Making little jokes, roundabout compliments... that sort of thing.
So the guy seemed to think that she was sort of his personal property or about to be if you see what I mean. So first he tried to intimidate me (he was slightly bigger than I was but I could tell by the way he moved that he had no combat experience to speak of) so I just ignored him. And that's when he went physical and tried to push me. Without breaking a sweat (I mean after more than a decade of martial arts, Karate is my strong suit but like most people I practice several, I didn't have to think about it. It's like when you drive a car, you can do it while thinking of something else, same here) I immobilized him, in a way, that he was completely helpless, making him feel some pain but at the same time causing no damage whatsoever. I didn't say a word and just released him and continued as if nothing happened. This convinced him (since wasn't a complete idiot) that he was greatly outmatched and so he left.
There's nothing to it, really. I didn't think some of you would make such a big deal out of it. IMHO, you should get out more, or some.
When I was single, and people asked me 'when are you getting married', I would reply 'as soon as you get divorced'.
I responded to the 'why don't you have children' with a 'why didn't you use birth control'
The questions stopped.
I responded to the 'why don't you have children' with a 'why didn't you use birth control'
The questions stopped.
Why do you guys have to put religion into everything... it's like your mental ketchup...
So are you saying I should at least try and meet someone?
I've always been a late bloomer in many ways, but there could be hope for me yet.
What is the worse that can happen, the person declines, that does not mean there is something wrong with you, it is just that person is not meant for you at that moment in time, and if the respondant is rude, who wants a rude partner anyway?
Person says No. Guess what, the earth is still rotating on its axis, tomorow is another day.
No one is obligated to like you all the time and you are definitely not obligated to like everyone else. Sign up to some dating sites, or meetup groups. I resisted for years and then I joined a few with no expections and had fun meeting different people until I met someone where we both clicked. Trust me I was more than content being on my own with my two cats...
If you look for another human being to MAKE you happy you will fail (no one has that much power, trust me) however if you find peace and contentment in yourself before reaching out to someone its a better place to start. But if you decide that you love 'me, myself and 'I then go for it!
P.S I know the USA has huge racial, melanin and cultural baggage but have you considered dating outside your ethnic comfort zone?
Also remember the other 7 billion human beings on our planet, need to sleep, eat, fart and use the toilet just like you do.
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What is the worse that can happen, the person declines, that does not mean there is something wrong with you, it is just that person is not meant for you at that moment in time, and if the respondant is rude, who wants a rude partner anyway?
Persan says No guess what the earth is stll spinin rotating on its axis, tomorow is another day.
No one is obligated to like you all the time and you are definitely not obligated to like everyone else. Sign up to some dating sites, or meetyp groups. I resisted for years and then I joined a few with no expections and had fun meeting different people until I met someone where we both clicked. Trust me I was more than content being on my own with my two cats...
If you look for another human being to MAKE you happy you will fail (no one has that much power, trust me) however if you find peace and contentment in yourself before reaching out to someone its a better place to start. But if you decide that you love 'me, myself and 'I then go for it!
P.S I know the USA has huge racial, melanin and cultural issues but have you considered dating outside your ethnic comfort zone?
Another way is to cast a wide net. Be kind and charming with everyone you meet that you could be interested in and wait for stuff to happen. After a while, it becomes second nature. Just one guy's opinion.
Stuff a sock in your pants,go crazy with the drakkar noir and sit around public places having fake conversations on your phone about yacht repairs while pretending to read New Yorker. Things are going to happen. Or not. I haven't tested it. but I want someone to try it. This is not an attempt to sway anyone from being single or in a relationship. It may make either state more interesting.
Or just pretend to be a king like Henry V who according to Shakespeare dressed as a commoner to see what people were saying behind his back. It may be a lot cheaper than trying to dress like a billionaire IMO. You could be in hock up to your eyeballs just to buy a believable wardrobe.
I was not, and generally am not, serious.Or just pretend to be a king like Henry V who according to Shakespeare dressed as a commoner to see what people were saying behind his back. It may be a lot cheaper than trying to dress like a billionaire IMO. You could be in hock up to your eyeballs just to buy a believable wardrobe.
Neither was I.
I mean seriously if you go around pretending to be a king in cheap clothes you're most likely to end up in a bin.
Or just pretend to be a king like Henry V who according to Shakespeare dressed as a commoner to see what people were saying behind his back. It may be a lot cheaper than trying to dress like a billionaire IMO. You could be in hock up to your eyeballs just to buy a believable wardrobe.
Might not have worked too well as a cover given the average commoner was chronically malnourished and he was, er, well fed.
I needed a vice i could afford.It's all of that caffeine.
How true! But whoever said that Shakespeare was realistic?
I mean when about a hundred years ago, a French President fell off a train and was wandering about not knowing where he was. The woman who first saw him, immediately knew that he was someone important because of his manicured hands!!!
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