My name is Gryffindorian. I'm a 45-year-old single male living in the San Francisco Bay Area. I'm Asian American. I identify as bisexual. I work in accounting for a public utility agency. I have diabetes and chronic anxiety. I like scifi and fantasy shows and films, shopping, dining out, listening to music, and exercising. As I mentioned in another thread, I haven't been in a relationship for most of my adult life, and I'm quite content with the status quo, or at least I have been. I'm just happy to be in the company of people dear to me, i.e., my friends and family. Who wouldn't be? How did I turn out to be this way, you might ask. Most of my solitary nature can be attributed to my personality. In fact, I'm so introverted that I tend to keep to myself even at home, or in many social settings. That's just me. While I have a few close friends, I don't actively seek out new people, as they do on Star Trek. Another factor, I believe, has been the lack of self-confidence, arising from my own anxiety - the fear of rejection or being judged. As I've grown older, I don't give a shit anymore what others think. From time to time, I find myself attracted to a certain individual. It's more an infatuation than anything else, and I ask myself, what if??? What if I decide to get to know this person and we really hit it off? What if the other person isn't interested and I end up humiliating myself? What if we become a couple? What if we don't get along and we break up? Such a relationship could have a drastic impact on my life. Thus the nagging thoughts become intrusive, further contributing to my anxiety. What say you? Would you consider a solitary lifestyle atypical or unusual? I've sometimes entertained the possibility that I might have a schizoid personality disorder, but it would be silly to self-diagnose. Besides, I don't check all the boxes.