I am very confused

[Goji]

Right now, as I see it, I haven't done anything to this girl to deserve what she is doing to me. I like that. I like knowing that even through completely unfair treatment, I am doing what my conscience says I should do.

Goji, there is definitely value in that. There is also value in determining the truth from the source as well. These may, or may not, be self-contradictory goals in this case. (I wouldn't equate this with stalking, especially if you give it a rest for awhile.) But, this is a difficult situation with no easy answers. I wish you the best.

Oh, and for the record, I haven't made any implications about the mother. She's just simply not the girl herself and she'll have her own perceptions of the situation that may be different from what the girl would say.

Mr Awe

I didn't aim my comment about disliking certain implications at anyone in particular. I understand why you say the things that you have, and in an ideal situation I would agree with you. I simply don't feel that what you suggest is feasible given the situation. I still appreciate hearing your input, and want to thank everyone for chiming in, no matter how they have done so.

 

[The Grim Ghost]

I'm really sorry that happened to you. But honestly, I don't get how exchanging messages and one meeting = love.

Whether the mother is lying or not, you don't really know this person. I think you are in love with a fantasy.

 

[Goji]

For the record, I did not meet her once. I spent an absolutely fantastic two weeks with her, and felt that I got to know her very well during that period. Obviously I was mistaken, but that is not a mistake unique to online relationships.

 

[Jethro Elvis]

This is starting to sound like a Mad Baggins thread.

 

[RJDiogenes]

No, not even close.

 

[Shazam!]

Her mother sounds full of shit.

/thread

 

[Robert Maxwell]

Goji, while I can't speak to the motives of the girl's mother, you at least have my sympathy for the situation you're in. I've dealt with similar circumstances, and it's never fun when someone you thought you had a connection with just cuts you off for no apparent reason.

Best thing you can do is just move on. If she wants to contact you, she'll do it in her own time. But there's not really any way for you to force the issue unless you're going to show up at her house, and you've already said you feel that's inappropriate. As hard as it may be, it sounds like it's time to let go.

 

[Finn]

Wait... You spent only two weeks with her??

 

[Gryffindorian]

Two days, two weeks, two months ... Does it matter? The girl has completely cut off communication with Goji, and I don't blame him for not wanting to pursue the matter any further. It's probably best to move on.