Good Husband or Emasculated Wuss?

[doubleohfive]

On the whole, I think this man showed quite a bit of courage. Taking a picture of his daughter (and presumably his wife, too) was more important to him than the question whether he looked ridiculous or not. I find this quite admirably and very manly. Gentlemanly, even

I generally agree with this assessment.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

to quote from X-men 2: Women flirt with the bad guy but they marry the good guy

edit: you guys are too fast! This was meant as a reply to Kestra's post

 

[Thestral]

Well without Flux actually stating his opinion on anything other than the color pink, it's difficult to really discuss with him at all. It's inappropriate to be taking someone's picture and discussing like this (as several have mentioned). There's no way to tell if someone is a "good husband" or not from a picture, and it's really none of our business to even try. I don't pretend that the standards I have for my own relationship apply to everyone else's or that my idea of a good husband is anyone else's.

Lastly, I dislike any thoughtful, considerate, or just generally nice action being seen as weak. The whole "women like bad boys" thing that's been brought up in this thread is incredibly annoying. I don't want to be treated badly and I will fight against it. Unfortunately no one out there is perfect either, so yes, we do have to put up with the flaws of others. Being kind and helpful to your partner should never be seen as a flaw, weakness, or something that needs to be changed.

 

[Kemaiku]

 

[doubleohfive]

Well without Flux actually stating his opinion on anything other than the color pink, it's difficult to really discuss with him at all. It's inappropriate to be taking someone's picture and discussing like this (as several have mentioned). There's no way to tell if someone is a "good husband" or not from a picture, and it's really none of our business to even try. I don't pretend that the standards I have for my own relationship apply to everyone else's or that my idea of a good husband is anyone else's.

Lastly, I dislike any thoughtful, considerate, or just generally nice action being seen as weak. The whole "women like bad boys" thing that's been brought up in this thread is incredibly annoying. I don't want to be treated badly and I will fight against it. Unfortunately no one out there is perfect either, so yes, we do have to put up with the flaws of others. Being kind and helpful to your partner should never be seen as a flaw, weakness, or something that needs to be changed.

 

[Kegg]

Well without Flux actually stating his opinion on anything other than the color pink, it's difficult to really discuss with him at all. It's inappropriate to be taking someone's picture and discussing like this (as several have mentioned). There's no way to tell if someone is a "good husband" or not from a picture, and it's really none of our business to even try. I don't pretend that the standards I have for my own relationship apply to everyone else's or that my idea of a good husband is anyone else's.

Lastly, I dislike any thoughtful, considerate, or just generally nice action being seen as weak. The whole "women like bad boys" thing that's been brought up in this thread is incredibly annoying. I don't want to be treated badly and I will fight against it. Unfortunately no one out there is perfect either, so yes, we do have to put up with the flaws of others. Being kind and helpful to your partner should never be seen as a flaw, weakness, or something that needs to be changed.

I hate social media.

But I like this.

 

[bbailey861]

Am I the only one who thought of this?

The funny thing about the spot is, that what this guy did is actually almost the definition of "compromise".

This is a good commercial. Funny. Seriously, though, I hold my wifes purse when she asks me to. Why? Because she asked me to. That's enough for me. There is no issue here.

 

[Kestra]

Yay everyone likes me! Or my post, anyway.

 

[doubleohfive]

Yay everyone likes me! Or my post, anyway.

Ironic that this thread was posted today because this is the perfect reply to your comment:

Evey Hammond said:
"We are told to remember the idea, not the man, because a man can fail. He can be caught, he can be killed and forgotten, but an idea can change the world."

 

[Kegg]

Also Flux.

Possibly useful example.

Let's say there was a photo of a woman wearing pants. And you posted it here with the question 'Sensible Dresser or Mannish Crossdresser?'

That's about how odd your post comes off as.

 

[M'Sharak]

... What we see here is a man not only holding but wearing his wife's purse, taking photos with what is clearly her diamond encrusted iPhone.

<snip> "I wonder what TBBS thinks?"

I think, from the way the object is being held, that it very likely is indeed a phone being used to take a photograph. Its state of diamond-encrustation, however, is anything but clear, and neither is its color nor even that it's an iPhone (as opposed to being a device from some other manufacurer.)

 

[Kestra]

Yay everyone likes me! Or my post, anyway.

Ironic that this thread was posted today because this is the perfect reply to your comment:

Evey Hammond said:
"We are told to remember the idea, not the man, because a man can fail. He can be caught, he can be killed and forgotten, but an idea can change the world."

That's ... rather intense.

 

[doubleohfive]

Yay everyone likes me! Or my post, anyway.

Ironic that this thread was posted today because this is the perfect reply to your comment:

Evey Hammond said:
"We are told to remember the idea, not the man, because a man can fail. He can be caught, he can be killed and forgotten, but an idea can change the world."

That's ... rather intense.

I agree. Though, it should be! Its from V for Vendetta.

 

[trekkiedane]

And if women wear trousers and pyjamas, why shouldn't men wear skirts (if they have good legs) or handbags? The latter would certainly look better than those ugly baggy pants that hang half a mile under the male bottom and propably have all pockets stuffed with wallets, cigarettes, condoms, keys, beer cans and whatever else guys carry around with them.

...multi-tools, hand sanitizers, batteries, reading glasses, sun glasses, cables, USB-dongles, umbrellas, pens, paper, 3-in-1 nail-thingies, ear-plugs, rubber-bands and string -always string -can never pass a length of string that's just lying there without adding it to my ball

 

[Kemaiku]

 

[Mr Awe]

So, I think this thread has established that the OP has some kind of deep-seated discomfort with his own masculinity, while everyone else (including me) thinks there is no big deal here.

Carry on.

That's certainly where the thread ended up, once the hivemind finished piling on. Not sure the OP established that, but the thread certainly did...

Nah, the OP did that by himself with his focus and priorities being placed on looking masculine by surrounding himself with masculine items.

Mr Awe

 

[Mr Awe]

This thread is so full of nonsense that it is mindboggling. It's a bag, for christ's sake.

The bag and phone are nothing. It's the ridicule of the person holding them that are absurd! The defense of ridiculing of the person in the picture is also ridiculous!

Mr Awe

 

[thestrangequark]

This thread is so full of nonsense that it is mindboggling. It's a bag, for christ's sake.

The bag and phone are nothing. It's the ridicule of the person holding them that are absurd! The defense of ridiculing of the person in the picture is also ridiculous!

Mr Awe

Yes, that is, indeed, the point I was making.

 

[Mr Awe]

Seriously people, read the entire thread before you try to play Freud. Also, I love how a moderator got in on the pilling on, that's always awesome.

I read all of your own comments about "masculinity" to easily figure out what your take on the situation is.

Pretty straightforward. To be a man, you've got to surround yourself with what society has defined as "masculine items". Failure to do so makes you effeminate (you've judged J. this way because he likes pink--not cool) and whipped. You even said, the guy is not equal to the woman he was with, which justifies the mocking from the other women.

That's all you.

Mr Awe

 

[Mr Awe]

This thread is so full of nonsense that it is mindboggling. It's a bag, for christ's sake.

The bag and phone are nothing. It's the ridicule of the person holding them that are absurd! The defense of ridiculing of the person in the picture is also ridiculous!

Mr Awe

Yes, that is, indeed, the point I was making.

Sorry, I am slow today.

Mr Awe