But man, I'd eventually get pissed if one of my guy friends kept pressing the matter when I'd say no a bunch of times.
Friends with Benefits?
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But man, I'd eventually get pissed if one of my guy friends kept pressing the matter when I'd say no a bunch of times.
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But man, I'd eventually get pissed if one of my guy friends kept pressing the matter when I'd say no a bunch of times.
Very true, which is where we are at now. I want to procede but she is hesitant, so I have since backed off alittle bit. I am letting my stew "slow cook" sort of say. But I don't think it will happen, because she knows my girlfriend. She doesn't think it would be right to do that to her...and I say of course it isn't right, but that doesn't mean we should deny ourselves.....
Yeah, it ain't working
Since for some reason I'm in a very open and honest mood at the moment, I'll answer this.
Yes, I'm able to maintain the whole "friends with benefits" thing. But it's not like it's based on any kind of discipline thing. Emotional attachment beyond good friendship is just something that's hard for me to feel.
Don't mistake it for shallowness, nor a sense of "self-protection" I just don't.
So as you can imagine, for someone with my mind and feelings, it's easy to pull off without any worry of attachment or anything.
I've never had a 'friend with benefits', no. Hell, I've never even had the benefits. 
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But I wouldn't want a 'friend with benefits' anyway. I'm a romantic at heart. I couldn't do it with someone I wasn't in love with. I'm not that casual.
'But I wouldn't want a 'friend with benefits' anyway. I'm a romantic at heart. I couldn't do it with someone I wasn't in love with. I'm not that casual.
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Well, I was going to avoid posting in this thread, but I just have to. This might offend some of the ladies (and who knows, maybe some of the guys) but despite my parents being the best you could ask for (and I was adopted, so I could've been screwed) I really don't believe in committed relationships or marriage. Why, you may ask? I guess neither have really ever been something I've felt I've needed. Since I was in high school, I've successfully had short-term sexual relationships with girls. This continued when I got to college, and here I am, almost thirty (I'll be twenty eight on January 1st) and I'm still enjoying relationships with girls that are purely sexual and have no lasting commitments. What do this have to do with the post? The fact is, I've had a few of my one or two night stands turn into friendships, and I've made friends that haven't turned into one or two night stands. In the case of the first, there's been a slight difficulty in becoming friends. Usually, the girl would begin to "get serious," and I'd explain that I'm not seeking (or will ever likely seek) a committed relationship. Despite that, two of those girls I had fun with became friends. There are times when we've struggled to not revert to a physical relationship, but it hasn't been that difficult. As for my friends who I haven't had sex with, well...that's tricky. Probably my closest female friend, who is five years younger than me, not only sees me as a big brother but is also clearly attracted to me. I, of course, being still breathing and heterosexual, would very much enjoy bedding her numerous times. But she's had some serious hurts in the past, and I know I'd only be making that worse, as she'd definitely want more if we had sex. So I keep on doing my thing and continuing having these friends "without benefits." One of those friends keeps telling me that I'm going to eventually either A) break down and "fall in love" or B) get a girl pregnant. The former hasn't come close to happening, and while the former is always a concern (I've had my share of scares...believe me) I'm not too worried about it. Okay, I know...some of you girls here think I'm a complete asshole. Still, the truth is, I'm sure a lot of girls would think that after reading this, but we'd still end up fucking. That seems to be my experience. -Dan
Not offended. Marriage, or even long term relationships, are not for everyone.
but how does she handle the heat from re-entry?
Gotta remember protection though. You wouldn't want to get 'disease and danger wrapped in darkness and silence.'
You're winking all the time, how can we tell the difference?
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Oh, man, I'm so late with this post I wish I hadn't done it.
It looks like a hair on soup. Whatever that is in English - I'm too tired to research it.
I didn't mean to be judgemental but, trying to get "benefits" with a friend, while being in a steady relationship, and publicly admitting to it? Tsk, tsk.
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Gotta remember protection though. You wouldn't want to get 'disease and danger wrapped in darkness and silence.'
I call it "Bones".
Shit man, I AM married and there are NO benefits (it's a health issue thing).
It'd be nice to have friends that could... uh... help out. But down that road lies danger, so... no.
Check, no good will come of that...
I have had both the horrible failures and wonderful successes.
The failures were the result of shacking up with someone I previously had feelings for. The successes are/were the result of never having had anything more than friendly feelings.
The failures were the result of shacking up with someone I previously had feelings for. The successes are/were the result of never having had anything more than friendly feelings.
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