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Friends with Benefits?

JimCasy

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I was reading Picard's Womern's of the Female Gender thread and got to thinking about this. Has anyone here had successful experiences with the whole "friends with benefits" thing? People always seem to think it's a bad idea, and that someone is always going to end up hurt.

From my own experience: I've had a couple friends with benefits situations that were fantastic. We didn't like each other enough to date, so we just broke it off whenever one of us actually started seeing someone. No hard feelings on either side. I'm still friends with them, but since we're all in relationships now, of course the 'benefits' part isn't happening anymore.

I can't be the only one who's had a good experience with this...I mean, post bad experiences too if you like, I don't just want to hear one side.
 
I had a friend with benefits back in my university days. He lived in my home town and I went away to uni. The "with benefits" part of the relationship lasted on and off for 18 months or so. In the end he met someone and moved away, and I admit even now to missing him. It feels like it was a relationship that ended oddly, rather than a friendship that just gradually drifted apart, as friendships often do at that age. It makes me sad to think of him, but I enjoyed it at the time, and I don't regret it. I don't think I really got hurt, but I could quite easily see how I could have.
 
They can work, but you have to make sure the other party has the same mind-set. I think they're a bit shallow and tawdry though.
 
And what exactly is wrong with shallow and tawdry? :p

I just figure, as long as you both talk beforehand and make sure it's just about sex, it's a healthy way to deal with life when it gets you frustrated and stressed out. Super happy catharsis fun time! :D

And it's a way better way to get sexual urges satisfied than picking up strangers in bars.
 
I'm currently in such a situation. It's great! No expectations, no flowers or card, no phone calls just to let them know you're "thinkin' about 'em".

Very efficient and business like. She comes over, I fix a drink, we chat a bit about our day and one of us says "Let's do this!".

And then we do.
 
I'm currently in such a situation. It's great! No expectations, no flowers or card, no phone calls just to let them know you're "thinkin' about 'em".

Very efficient and business like. She comes over, I fix a drink, we chat a bit about our day and one of us says "Let's do this!".

And then we do.
Do what?
 
I'm currently in such a situation. It's great! No expectations, no flowers or card, no phone calls just to let them know you're "thinkin' about 'em".

Very efficient and business like. She comes over, I fix a drink, we chat a bit about our day and one of us says "Let's do this!".

And then we do.
Do what?
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I'm currently in such a situation. It's great! No expectations, no flowers or card, no phone calls just to let them know you're "thinkin' about 'em".

Very efficient and business like. She comes over, I fix a drink, we chat a bit about our day and one of us says "Let's do this!".

And then we do.
Do what?
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I am trying to get this going right now, but she is too resistant! I keep trying to tell her that it is a good thing and that nature would want it this way, but she keeps saying that she isn't that type of girl.....I will keep trying though.
 
I am trying to get this going right now, but she is too resistant! I keep trying to tell her that it is a good thing and that nature would want it this way, but she keeps saying that she isn't that type of girl.....I will keep trying though.

I think if you have to work that hard to talk someone into it, maybe it shouldn't happen...
 
Back in college I had a friend with benefits.
It's a great way to relieve some stress
People can have the enjoyment, without the demands

She ended up transferring to UCLA and I ended up hooking up with her friend, but that was a relationship and a different story
 
I am trying to get this going right now, but she is too resistant! I keep trying to tell her that it is a good thing and that nature would want it this way, but she keeps saying that she isn't that type of girl.....I will keep trying though.

I think if you have to work that hard to talk someone into it, maybe it shouldn't happen...

That is precisely the problem....we both know it is a bad idea, but she is too hot to let go. I want to bust that big black ass in a million pieces! I look at her body and say "break me off a piece of that kit kat bar!"

As Galaxy class would say "Bubble booty bouncin' in the Captains quarters!"
 
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