You keep trying to twist the facts to fit you perspective, when your perspective should be shaped by facts.
Here's a fact that shaped my perspective. Denise Crosby, who played the weeping Yar, left the show before the first season ended. Seeing her character done so poorly throughout the entire season, especially in that episode, it's not hard to imagine why she wanted out.
First Episode: "I spoke before I thought sir."
Second Episode: Allows an obviously infected Geordi to infect her and than later has sex with Data.
Third Episode: Is attracted to the mad man who kidnaps her.
And now you're defending the writers wanting her to weep on the bridge. Next thing I'll be expecting is an argument defending this episode by saying women should still be treated as they were back in the days when they couldn't own land or vote.