Honestly, I don't even dislike the new films. I didn't like the way some things were done as much as in the OT, but that doesn't mean I hate them. Some things were better - I really liked the way lightsaber combat was done in the new films.
Obviously you guys feel differently, but I still think there's an argument to be made that Rey picked up the Force quicker than Jedi we've seen before (at least in the films). Again, I'm not saying this is an inherently bad decision, just a change in direction. I thought that while watching the movie. I wasn't told to think it, and plenty of other people I've spoken to thought the same thing without prompting. These criticisms do come from somewhere, so why deride people as "whiney SW fans who aren't getting the fanwank sequels" if they make that case?
Unconsciously using Force-influenced reflexes for flying and using the Force for winning a lightsaber duel against a more experienced fighter for the first time in one's life without any training doesn't really sound similar to me.
Luke let the Force flow threw him to destroy the Deathstar. Young Ani was clearly already using the Force, as literally stated in TPM. People having issues with Rey being great at this, are looking for something that isn't there if you ask me. Fantasy itself has ALWAYS been loaded with characters suddenly being capable of great feats, wether it's novels, movies or shows. It's silly and, yes, whiney to say that because Star Wars never did on such a scale it doesn't belong there. It tells me people aren't open to change. That people are being closeminded. And it's that last part that those people are being told. It's not about being told you can't think a certain thing. It's being told to think more. Think open minded. Be able to accept that things change. Luke is no longer the saviour of the galaxy anymore, someone else is. Accept it. They're speaking out so loudly because they can't accept that for years they wanted a movie about Luke being perfect. They didn't get that. So they need to be angry at something. So let's be angry at the new character that is now the saviour. The one they didn't want. If Luke was somehow much more powerful now, and capable of Force powers we've never see or heard of before, people would have only said 'Well ofcourse, it's Luke. Makes sense.' And that's petty.