Crying in Public

[Yeoman Randi]

No question about it for me. I definitely would ask the person if he/she was ok and was there anything i could do to help?

As far as i go, i pretty much have little control over my emotions and they are always spilling over everywhere. I can be pretty messy sometimes.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

As an English gentleman, I know that only foreign people, practising homosexualists and children should cry in public. If it turned out that it was another man, I would look pained and offer him some shag and tell him to pull himself together.

Sir,

I salute you. May your upper lip stay firmly rigid for all time. I would merely add that is also acceptable for the fairer sex to permit themselves a glistening of the eye occasionally. However if taken to excess, a firm shaking by the shoulders followed if necessary by a light slap across the cheek, should stop the problem becoming embarrassingly overdemonstrative.

Your eternal servant,
Sir Bufton Tufton,
Tonbridge Wells

That's all put me in a cheerful mood. Good work, everyone. Particularly you, Squire Tufton.

That's why I love this place.

iguana, shameless copying from Me-Ike's Thoughts on Me-Ike there

Heh, try being a cold-blooded lizard who intensely dislikes physical contact in a country stoked full of tactile people who can't wait to put their sweaty hands on you. At family reunions I have to fend off my relatives with a broomstick.

That's why I love this place too. Sir Tufton is a true recent asset. Turns the pages of her copies of Private Eye

And iguana ~ do not be scared, the closest thing you'll come to human contact in England is being poked with a rolled up umberella, hit on the head with a copy of the Financial Times or some "chav" knocking off your bowler hat ~ you will be safe.
And anyway ~ if I recall correctly did you not enjoy being flirted with by all the waitresses in London on your recent trip

 

[iguana_tonante]

And iguana ~ do not be scared, the closest thing you'll come to human contact in England is being poked with a rolled up umberella, hit on the head with a copy of the Financial Times or some "chav" knocking off your bowler hat ~ you will be safe.

I can live with that. Well, except for the chavs, but I guess striking them down in one swift motion is the social appropriate behaviour.

And anyway ~ if I recall correctly did you not enjoy being flirted with by all the waitresses in London on your recent trip

Oh, I enjoyed it. I just found that... unusual. Besides, I had my fiancée at my side all the time, which made it all the more surprising.

Now that I think of it, maybe they were flirting with her.

Ok, now I'm retroactively turned on...

 

[Holdfast]

Turns the pages of her copies of Private Eye

The Eye is everything that is right about the world.

Especially the classifieds section, of which Eye Need is a perennial highlight.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Turns the pages of her copies of Private Eye

The Eye is everything that is right about the world.

Especially the classifieds section, of which Eye Need is a perennial highlight.

So you really thing you can charge that much

 

[Holdfast]

Turns the pages of her copies of Private Eye

The Eye is everything that is right about the world.

Especially the classifieds section, of which Eye Need is a perennial highlight.

So you really thing you can charge that much

I do wonder whether anyone actually DOES send in money to those account numbers/sort codes posted. I mean, surely there must be a few souls out there who send some cash in, just for kicks. I wonder whether it's worth doing?

 

[The Boy Who Cried Worf]

I may be a little cold here but anybody crying in public strikes me more as a self-absorbed attention whore than someone in distress. If you need help and your response is to stand around and cry and you are not retarded or 5 years old tahn you are just loking for sympathy. If I was so upset I just had to start immediately sobbing I would find a quiet, desterted place. Besides the last person I saw crying in public was a scam artist. I know because she was crying over the same sob story on two different days

 

[K'Ehleyr]

The Eye is everything that is right about the world.

Especially the classifieds section, of which Eye Need is a perennial highlight.

So you really thing you can charge that much

I do wonder whether anyone actually DOES send in money to those account numbers/sort codes posted. I mean, surely there must be a few souls out there who send some cash in, just for kicks. I wonder whether it's worth doing?

On a slightly different bent ~ it's whether you would cash in the returned cheque from "Anal Toys and Co"?
There is lots of money to be made in these scams... This time next year, we could be millionaires Holdy

Disclaimer ~ and anyone else who wishes to invest

 

[Commander Rabbit]

I once saw a woman crying in her car (pulled over on the side of the road), and I stopped and asked if she needed help.

I can remember a couple times that I've been in very public places when I received devastating news about someone I cared about, and, yes, I cried a bit, despite the setting.

 

[RandyS]

I have actually done this before and was rather rudely rebuffed by the crying person. All I did was ask if they were okay, and if there was anything I could do, but was told to get lost.

I never approached another crying person again, and there were one or two.

 

[Tora Ziyal]

I may be a little cold here but anybody crying in public strikes me more as a self-absorbed attention whore than someone in distress. If you need help and your response is to stand around and cry and you are not retarded or 5 years old tahn you are just loking for sympathy...

So... you're saying that if someone in a public place were to receive a phone call that their closest friend (or mother or...) had just died, totally unexpectedly, and they burst out crying, it would be for the attention? That's more than "a little" cold.

 

[Yeoman Randi]

I have actually done this before and was rather rudely rebuffed by the crying person. All I did was ask if they were okay, and if there was anything I could do, but was told to get lost.

I never approached another crying person again, and there were one or two.

WTF? You didn't deserve that. You were reaching out to someone who was obviously upset. I'm sorry that happened to you. That makes me sad.

 

[trampledamage]

I have actually done this before and was rather rudely rebuffed by the crying person. All I did was ask if they were okay, and if there was anything I could do, but was told to get lost.

I never approached another crying person again, and there were one or two.

WTF? You didn't deserve that. You were reaching out to someone who was obviously upset. I'm sorry that happened to you. That makes me sad.

Oh come on, if someone is so upset or overwrought that they're crying in public let's cut them a little slack in the polite conversation etiquette department.

Some people might appreciate some help if they're crying, others are desperately hoping no-one notices because they don't want any additional attention and can't help the tears.

So if you feel capable of offering help, do so anyway - but don't take a sharp response personally, it's the other person's way of dealing with the turmoil.

 

[Yeoman Randi]

Mmm....sorry TD. You know i loves you, but i really have to disagree. Someone is crying and a total stranger comes up to them and shows compassion asks if they are ok, and the crying person says "Get lost"? I don't know, but i think that response is sooo not called for. It would be just as easy to say, "Thank you, but I'm ok".

 

[RandyS]

I have actually done this before and was rather rudely rebuffed by the crying person. All I did was ask if they were okay, and if there was anything I could do, but was told to get lost.

I never approached another crying person again, and there were one or two.

WTF? You didn't deserve that. You were reaching out to someone who was obviously upset. I'm sorry that happened to you. That makes me sad.

Oh come on, if someone is so upset or overwrought that they're crying in public let's cut them a little slack in the polite conversation etiquette department.

Some people might appreciate some help if they're crying, others are desperately hoping no-one notices because they don't want any additional attention and can't help the tears.

So if you feel capable of offering help, do so anyway - but don't take a sharp response personally, it's the other person's way of dealing with the turmoil.

That was the thing. I didn't take it personally, but at the same time, I DID think it was a little rude. Still, yeah, the best thing to do under the circumstances is give them their space.

 

[Kestra]

Obviously a person who is that upset and emotional is going to be at their most polite or in a rational state of mind. Sure, it's rude to rebuff someone like that but it's also easy to imagine. Someone's already upset, probably embarrassed at their display of emotion, and they might react in a bad way. It happens, and I wouldn't think it's that uncommon. It's one of the risks you take when approaching a stranger.

 

[Amaris]

Plus, there are times when someone doesn't realize they're being rude. It does happen. I've been curt with someone and they look at me like I bit their head off, and then I realize my response seemed to be rude when I didn't intend it. This tends to happen in an emergency situation also, where I'm going to be assessing a situation, and silliness or lack of focus on the parts of others tend to get me to be more stern than I wish to be, but it happens.

 

[Holdfast]

I do wonder whether anyone actually DOES send in money to those account numbers/sort codes posted. I mean, surely there must be a few souls out there who send some cash in, just for kicks. I wonder whether it's worth doing?

On a slightly different bent ~ it's whether you would cash in the returned cheque from "Anal Toys and Co"?

I just rewatched Lock, Stock a few weeks ago. Laugh out loud stuff, esp. that scene.