Fair enough.
"One more game of 3D chess, Mr. Spock?" Kirk asked.
"No, captain," said Spock. "It is 22:30. Uhura was expecting me at 22:00." He paused and added, "It is plomeek soup night."
"Ah, yes. Enjoy your plomeek soup, Mr. Spock." Kirk made a motion in the air like he was cracking a whip.
"She's taking shore leave in two days to visit her mother," said Spock.
"Who do you think got her out of here?" said Kirk quickly while grinning.
"Captain," Spock spoke in measured tones, "do you still have that box of cigars from Cygnus 3, that bottle of Saurian brandy, and -- "
"Those movies from Orion?" Kirk interrupted.
"Yes. The movies." Spock stood up straight at the door. Did he smile? "Senior officers meeting in two days, captain?"
"As soon as her shuttle leaves, Mr. Spock."
Walking out, Spock turns back to Kirk and says, almost cheerfully for him, "I will inform Dr. McCoy and Mr. Scott."
Let me tell you something, nothing throws a monkey wrench into a bromance quicker than when one of the guys gets a girlfriend.
I've been mostly lurking, but I thought I'd stick a toe in this thread. It seems like you have shifting arguments. First your concern seemed to be that Kirk should have a romantic relationship. Then it seems like you are concerned that Spock having a relationship interferes with the "bromance" aspect. Then it seems like you'd prefer neither of them have a relationship with a woman or perhaps the Spock/Uhura relationship turns you off.
So I'm not sure which is your main concern.
But I think that the writers wouldn't engage in mundane, meaningless scenarios with Spock/Uhura- especially in this genre with just 2 hours of time. On one thread a few people were even talking about them getting in arguments over cabin cleaning.

From interviews I've read it appears that the writers were quite deliberate, thoughtful, and reasoned about why they did what they did and it served a particular purpose. And I think they are capable of finding the right balance, context, emphasis and right place for all of the relationships within the overall plot if they continue that way of working. I don't see why they have to completely kill off Spock/Uhura in order to have a bromance or build Spock and Kirk's relationship.
Franklin, I think you are joking with your K/S scene so I guess there is no reason for me to get my bun in a twist.

(I would only be getting it in a twist if you were actually suggesting that it is funny and cute for a man secure in a happy and mature relationship to be happy to have his woman gone so that he can sit around drinking and watching Orion porn (yes porn or is there some other type of movies from "Specifically" Orion these 4 grown men would be watching so eagerly?)..of course since you are joking, then my bun can stay untwisted and loose!
Shimmeringfacet I so agree with your words here...
While the relationship was kept a secret, and was a surprise to us, I DO NOT believe the writers developed this as an actual relationship if they simply wanted to shock and upset the core trekkies.
I would like to say, and honestly, I am not trying to be condescending eventhough I believe as I write this, that I may come off sounding that way regardless, but
Please folks this was a
covert relationship..the only people on the Enterprise, so far who know what is going on is Kirk and Scotty and his engineering assistant who was sitting next to him. There must be people back at StarFleet who know or suspect since Spock was concerned about Uhura's assignment appearing to show favoritism on his part, but this doesn't necessarily have to be true.
The same way the relationship was kept
For Uhura and Spock
alone (they embraced in the Turbolift in private and on the Transporter pad insular and speaking very low words meant just for one another) this first movie back, shows that a loving relationship can be realized and as a secondary plot point, it can be replicated again. Not once, did they hold hands with one another, kiss on the bridge, make doey eyes at one another etc...they were professional with one another as this type of relationship calls for...
And Honestly, what is so
great about, for the second go around, seeing these people relive the same existence for the next 40 or so years...alone! I suppose my feelings on this is clear...there is nothing whatever great or even entertaining about that state of being.
Someone above said it so well, but I did not write down their name unfortunately, but these writers are capable of deepening Spock and Kirk's friendship as well as continuing to develop the relationship between Uhura and Spock...most desperately, for me

so that Uhura will have more to do then sit at her desk and Open or Hail Frequencies...
There is no reason on Earth surely and in Space definitely in the 23rd century(let me know if I have my centuries off

) that women and men, Human and Alien/Vulcans living and existing on a StarShip can't conduct themselve like adults. It's fiction people...the slate, while not wiped clean has been restructured (I was going to go with "tidied up" but I think this may upset some people)...so lets enjoy new adventures and relationships....I know, I will be the better for it...I wish everyone felt the same, but they don't...but I sure wish the writers do---as they are the ones making the decisions!!!!