And making Vulcan girls go through Pon Farr, now it's just an analogy for puberty, isn't it? Which I found to be completely absurd and absolutely hateful. I liked it when only Vulcan Males had to endure it, it gave the species a truly alien quality. Not anymore. I know fans are quick to rationalize these lapses in logic by stating how "just as there are different kinds of Humans, there are different kinds of Vulcans," and whatever else. Rubbish.
I agree. T'Pol's actions were silly. Her "horny and I don't care where I get it from" attitute missed the mark and does not live up to what I think Roddenberry meant for it to be...but that is just my opinion and is based on TOS Spock's reactions to Nurse Chapel's advances when he was going through it.
From what you post here, it is not clear that you agree with the O.P.'s position. The O.P. is railing against Vulcan "girls" going into Pon Farr. Your post seems to be railing against T'Pol's actions
after entering Pon Farr. Might want to clarify.
However, as others have mentioned, T'Pol was not in close physical proximity with her selected mate, Kos, so it is not illogical that given enough time, she might seek out others.
What I do find insanely illogical is how Trip, Phlox, or any other male on board could have turned her down.