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The question is, salted or unsalted?
Salted of course, but only take my advice with a grain of salt!
Salted of course, but only take my advice with a grain of salt!
Yeah, I don't think he should listen to you. You may not be a qualified nutritionist.
I've seen a few people mention the "fucking slut" line and I feel I should've mentioned how incredibly out of line that is. Unless you cheated on him and threw it in his face there's really no reason for him to ever call you a fucking slut or vice versa. That alone should be ringing alarm bells.
Salted of course, but only take my advice with a grain of salt!
Yeah, I don't think he should listen to you. You may not be a qualified nutritionist.
I think I'm starting to rub off on some people. As long as I'm not rubbing anyone the wrong way, I guess it's all right.
I think i'd be fairly good giving a massage, considering I have years of experience rubbing thi--eh, what are we talking about?!? 
Salted of course, but only take my advice with a grain of salt!
Yeah, I don't think he should listen to you. You may not be a qualified nutritionist.
Actually, I was mocking you, but I don't really bear you any ill will.
But if we were to take your advice to its logical conclusion, nobody here should ever really post about anything, unless we're "fully qualified" to do so, you know?
I think relationships are one of the few things just about everyone is qualified to give advice on, by default. We're all people and we all, hypothetically, have relationships with one another. Having talked to relationship counselors before, I've not found anything that makes them significantly more qualified than anyone else. Most of what they probe for is pretty obvious. And sometimes, it's very clear what's going on in a relationship.
Admittedly, we only have KT's side of it. Maybe she does things to egg him on or aggravate him. I don't know. But if the stuff she said is true--about his childish behavior, his lack of responsibility, and the name-calling--well, come on. Nobody should put up with that. You don't have to be an angel yourself to realize that this behavior is wrong.
The real question is... Why are you still with this shitbag?
You see, KT is the kind of woman who'd stay with this man for years and years and complain till her mouth falls off, but in the end she'll still stay with him. Any advice you guys are giving her will be falling on deaf ears, as by the looks of it she doesn't seem to be considering leaving him. *shrug* I have seen women (and many whiny men) do this for years and years till something truly horrible happens. Calling her a stupid slut is by no means a small thing. It wasn't said in jest nor was it said in the throes of passion, and even then it'd be 'sexy slut' or 'fucking slut'. Anyways, him being able to say that to her means that he has absolutely no respect for her. Just saying that he's her first love is no excuse. She should leave immediately before more harm comes upon her.
Yeah... unless it was during sex and he sucked in air through his teeth and said "oooh yeah." right after.
with the amount of salt in this thread one could salt enough popcorn for entire theatre full of patrons.
Salted of course, but only take my advice with a grain of salt!
Yeah, I don't think he should listen to you. You may not be a qualified nutritionist.
well as a woman it rubs me the wrong way how you dont see just how nasty and serious this situation is.
sometimes this level of verbal abuse escaltes into physical.
one of several reasons why i said she needs to get him out now.
and then perhaps go to counseling.
I agree that the verbal abuse is a VERY serious warning sign. And there doesn't even have to be physical abuse--that's still trying to destroy another human being and in my mind, the level that this has reached is intolerable.
I think KT would be well within her rights...and even more, would show great respect to herself to get OUT of the relationship with this scumbag.
And I would ask one more question, one I'm not sure anyone else has asked. Was it this jerkwad man who refused to take marriage vows? If it was him, I would find myself wondering if it was because he knew right from the beginning he wanted some sort of freaking escape clause exactly so he could do this sort of crap to KT later.
I think KT would be well within her rights...and even more, would show great respect to herself to get OUT of the relationship with this scumbag.
And I would ask one more question, one I'm not sure anyone else has asked. Was it this jerkwad man who refused to take marriage vows? If it was him, I would find myself wondering if it was because he knew right from the beginning he wanted some sort of freaking escape clause exactly so he could do this sort of crap to KT later.
KT..let me toss in a couple of pennies..
Don't do what I did and stay in a relationship for 22 years, to have it come crashing down around your ears..you think 6 years of emotional baggage is hard to jettison, try 20+.. You are young, smart, and very attractive..this will make it much easier, should you decide to press the eject button, to find someone much more suitable for you..
don't wait until it's too late..
but it's your decision..
the entire "slut" thing is a MAJOR red flag..as well as his possessiveness..many folks who are already doing the cheating often are VERY possessive and jealous, after all, if he's cheating, why not you?...
but again..just a couple of pennies..
Don't do what I did and stay in a relationship for 22 years, to have it come crashing down around your ears..you think 6 years of emotional baggage is hard to jettison, try 20+.. You are young, smart, and very attractive..this will make it much easier, should you decide to press the eject button, to find someone much more suitable for you..
don't wait until it's too late..
but it's your decision..
the entire "slut" thing is a MAJOR red flag..as well as his possessiveness..many folks who are already doing the cheating often are VERY possessive and jealous, after all, if he's cheating, why not you?...
but again..just a couple of pennies..
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well as a woman it rubs me the wrong way how you dont see just how nasty and serious this situation is.
sometimes this level of verbal abuse escaltes into physical.
one of several reasons why i said she needs to get him out now.
and then perhaps go to counseling.
How ever did you come to that wrongful conclusion?! I realize the gravity of the situation here more than people know it, but I think I've made myself very clear. This is a marital problem that KT and her husband need to sort out. I don't know about the rest of you, but it's not in my place to tell people what they ought to do about their marriage.
What is your problem? No one is ordering her to do anything, they're just opining on the situation which is obviously the point of the thread. Hell, that's the point of any thread. You've made your point repeatedly and we all get it so stop shitting on the thread.
Actually, I was mocking you, but I don't really bear you any ill will.
But if we were to take your advice to its logical conclusion, nobody here should ever really post about anything, unless we're "fully qualified" to do so, you know?
I think relationships are one of the few things just about everyone is qualified to give advice on, by default. We're all people and we all, hypothetically, have relationships with one another. Having talked to relationship counselors before, I've not found anything that makes them significantly more qualified than anyone else. Most of what they probe for is pretty obvious. And sometimes, it's very clear what's going on in a relationship.
Admittedly, we only have KT's side of it. Maybe she does things to egg him on or aggravate him. I don't know. But if the stuff she said is true--about his childish behavior, his lack of responsibility, and the name-calling--well, come on. Nobody should put up with that. You don't have to be an angel yourself to realize that this behavior is wrong.
Should I be flattered that you even mocked my postst?
That aside, you don't have to explain the whole situation to me, as I am very well aware of KT's problems with her less-than-man of a partner. The difference I have with the Moral Majority is that I don't presume to tell her what to do. I've said it millions of times. She's a smart adult capable of making her own decisions.
