Cupid Escrow Service - aka Holdfast Matchmaking Inc.

[Kirk's_Tights]

Gay guys in particular are awesome.

My cousin is gay and he happens to be one of the only people in my family to enjoys the same male specimens that I do so we gush about said celebrities/athletes.

Win win situation.

 

[Cakes488]

^ Thanks Rama...how much do I owe you for that again...? I think we agreed on a 20.

 

[Cakes488]

The same thing has happened to me quite a few times. Yes, yes yes....quite a few. I ask them flat out...you have a GF or whateva...and then the lies commence. WHY? Why waste both of our time? I'd like to hear the various motives from the men on this board...I know plenty of you are cheating. Actually feel free to submit any motives to dear Holdfasts wonderfully sordid confession thread if you want it to be on the down low.

I had gotten to know this girl a few months back and really grew to like her so after knowing her for a while I asked her out and she said yes. Turns out she had a boyfriend. It hurt like all hell and I don't understand why someone would do something like that.

So while you're getting to know her she didn't mention anything about a boyfriend? Nothing? No mention...not a word?

 

[RAMA]

^ Thanks Rama...how much do I owe you for that again...? I think we agreed on a 20.

We could play volleyball or baseball and call it even

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

Shirtless volleyball? What is this, Top Gun? *puts Playing with the Boys on*

 

[AstroSmurf]

I think you're being too hard on yourself, and you're such a cool guy. I can only speak for myself, but I waste no time pining for someone (male/female) who I know will never reciprocate my amorous feelings. Yes, the opposite might have been the case when I was younger and only dated young ladies, but not anymore.

This subject is not something that I am all that comfortable discussing and in an attempt to be vague, I seem to have been a little to much so. But to clarify... I am a very passionate and emotional person. I guess it is the artist in me. At times it can even overtake rational thought so I tend to bury them as a way of control. But I know the difference between infatuation, amorous stirrings and genuine spiritual/emotional attraction. Sex is very much a separate entity for me, one that can be experienced with anyone and then walk away from with no subsequent baggage. I can be almost frighteningly cold when need be. But when I do find an emotional or spiritual connection, I have a very hard time fighting it. I want to know this person, commune with them, protect them, cherish them and let them into a world I normally keep private. Even simple verbal exchanges can set my mind ablaze. So it is easier if I don't place myself into situations where I let myself fall into that emotional chasm.

 

[RAMA]

Shirtless volleyball? What is this, Top Gun? *puts Playing with the Boys on*

If she goes shirtless hitting a ball would be the last thing on my mind!

RAMA

 

[Cakes488]

^ Thanks Rama...how much do I owe you for that again...? I think we agreed on a 20.

We could play volleyball or baseball and call it even

We'll play both and then badminton ...which by the way I played last week and I just kicked ass all over the place. It was fun. I wish you lived closer so I could use you for sports. Yes Use you and just throw you away...and you'll like it!

 

[RAMA]

^ Thanks Rama...how much do I owe you for that again...? I think we agreed on a 20.

We could play volleyball or baseball and call it even

We'll play both and then badminton ...which by the way I played last week and I just kicked ass all over the place. It was fun. I wish you lived closer so I could use you for sports. Yes Use you and just throw you away...and you'll like it!

I already feel used....

Tonight I did 1 hr of badminton followed by a 2 hr workout at the gym..3 straight hours of sweat and steel...and birdies...

RAMA

 

[Cakes488]

Nice! I'm anti-gym...I'd just rather play 3 hours of badminton or whatever then. Actually I think I smell you...go take a shower!

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

Sex is very much a separate entity for me, one that can be experienced with anyone and then walk away from with no subsequent baggage

I guess I will never understand how people can do this. I know, I've got some nerve saying that, since I'm a virgin and thus could not possibly know what it's like, but I can't even conceive of the concept of separating sex and love/romance. This is not an insult against those who can, of course. It's just proof that my mind is wired in a very alien fashion, I suppose.

I don't know if I would be happier if I could separate the two. Maybe I would be. But I'm too old to change now.

 

[RAMA]

Nice! I'm anti-gym...I'd just rather play 3 hours of badminton or whatever then. Actually I think I smell you...go take a shower!

I'm immaculately clean tyvm.

How would I bench 455 hitting a birdie around? Anti-gym...sacrilege!

RAMA

 

[Cakes488]

Sex is very much a separate entity for me, one that can be experienced with anyone and then walk away from with no subsequent baggage

I guess I will never understand how people can do this. I know, I've got some nerve saying that, since I'm a virgin and thus could not possibly know what it's like, but I can't even conceive of the concept of separating sex and love/romance. This is not an insult against those who can, of course.

LOL no matter what way he swings you can tell that Astro is a guy! It's a very guy thing to seperate sex and love with ease, shit men can even seperate sex and like! Women tend to attach sex to love and all that crap...biological thing. Of course this isn't a blanket statement...plenty of women can...but I think you're a guy right? So you're a virgin huh! Good for you! May I probe you about it...? And by probe I mean ask a few questions?

 

[Cakes488]

Nice! I'm anti-gym...I'd just rather play 3 hours of badminton or whatever then. Actually I think I smell you...go take a shower!

I'm immaculately clean tyvm.

How would I bench 455 hitting a birdie around? Anti-gym...sacrilege!

RAMA

Is it really necessary to bench 455? Nah so fuck it and have a twinkie.... ..yes more sacrilege!

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

It's a very guy thing to seperate sex and love with ease, shit men can even seperate sex and like! Women tend to attach sex to love and all that crap...biological thing.

I dunno, I've heard plenty of women on this very board say that they can and do have sex with people they don't love (or even know), just like the guys can.

Of course this isn't a blanket statement...

Although this is: "Don't hog the blanket."

I think you're a guy right?

Yep.

So you're a virgin huh! Good for you! May I probe you about it...? And by probe I mean ask a few questions?

Ordinarily I'd say no, but what the hell, I brought it up. Basically it's a combination of these factors:

- I don't have a GF at this time
- Contraception is not 100% effective
- I'm a prude.

 

[Cakes488]

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin anyway. When I was 24 I actually went out with a guy just because of that. He was 19 and that fact turned me on so very very much. So this virgin thing can definitely work in your favor big time. Unfortunately I didn't get to deflower him because there was a death in the family when we just started going out and I couldn't deal with anybody....but back to you!

So how old are you?
Are you against pre-marital relations or are you just waiting for the right girl?
Where do you live...LOL LOL just kidding, this brought me back to being 24 for a minute.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

T So this virgin thing can definitely work in your favor big time.

Then again, it could also work against it (I'm 39). Oh well, I've made my choices.

Are you against pre-marital relations

Not in general, no. I, personally, wouldn't be ready. I'm not making a judgment as a whole on the concept.

or are you just waiting for the right girl?

That's the main problem, yeah.

Where do you live...LOL LOL just kidding, this brought me back to being 24 for a minute.

I live in Omaha, NE although I do vacation in New York City a lot.

 

[RAMA]

Nice! I'm anti-gym...I'd just rather play 3 hours of badminton or whatever then. Actually I think I smell you...go take a shower!

I'm immaculately clean tyvm.

How would I bench 455 hitting a birdie around? Anti-gym...sacrilege!

RAMA

Is it really necessary to bench 455? Nah so fuck it and have a twinkie.... ..yes more sacrilege!

There are various answers to this question, the simplest is: its like climbing a mountain: you do it cause its there and because you can, plus lots of other people can't or won't.

 

[Cakes488]

Well I would hope that you're masterbating...........right?

There are plenty of worse things in the world then being a virgin at 39. Really.
And no it may even be more of a turn on knowing that you're 39 and "untouched"....so I don't think it's a detriment. I may have spelled that wrong.
I'd like to hear from other ladies about this.....

I know it's really hard meeting people...especially if your shy. But if you do really want to meet somebody, that right girl then you have to put yourself out there.

(feel free to ignore anything i say that you don't want to answer - lord knows everybody else does LOL)

 

[Cakes488]

I'm immaculately clean tyvm.

How would I bench 455 hitting a birdie around? Anti-gym...sacrilege!

RAMA

Is it really necessary to bench 455? Nah so fuck it and have a twinkie.... ..yes more sacrilege!

There are various answers to this question, the simplest is: its like climbing a mountain: you do it cause its there and because you can, plus lots of other people can't or won't.

I'm not on your level Rama...I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more of a slob then you are.