What part of your posts calling her chubby on the verge of being fat with flabby arms and stomach and possibly a hormone problem did I misinterpret, exactly? Please, enlighten me.
The part where I made clear I was talking about that one picture only, and the parts where I said that her picture in the salmon dress made her look too thin; just as the later picture made her look healthy. You seem to conveniently gloss over those parts. And concerning the hormone problem I mentioned; that was just a joke about her wildly varying looks on those pictures; she isn't the only woman who's weight fluctuates a bit, you know, that's completely normal; it just seems to fluctuate a lot if you put those three pictures together.
You don't think there's anything odd about you calling a girl who 90% of the posters in this topic called "too thin" chubby? That doesn't raise any red flags that maybe your perception of things is way off? I disagree with the too thin comments myself, because she seems to be perfectly healthy to me for a petite woman, but she's by far closer to falling under the too thin category than ever coming anywhere close to being considered chubby.
Again, you are taking my posts, pulling parts of my sentences out of context and then saying I'm calling her chubby. I didn't call her chubby; I said she was (or at least looks) fat (= chubby in my eyes, I tend to use hyperbole) on that gray and white photo, not the rest. And I stand by that; it looks like she has too much weight in that picture. I don't know if it's the lighting, if it's the clothing or if it's the angle; I'm not a photographer. Probably a factor of all three. All I can say on the subject is what I can see in the picture.
The problem with your "honest appraisal" is that it creates a wildly unrealistic body image for women to live up to. You may think you're helping them to stay healthy, but if your judgment is as poor as it is with this girl then I dare say you might cause someone to have real issues with their self-image some day if you haven't already.
No, my honest appraisal doesn't create a "wildly unrealistic body image for women to live up to"; that is utter nonsense. If there are women who, as you say, take all comments literally, they'll keep jojo-ing with their weight and looks since everybody has a differing opinion. And if that's the case, then it's not a matter of my opinion being somehow "damaging", it's their inability to assess their personal worth of people's opinions and their inability to be honest about themselves. If they're honest about themselves, then their body image should have little to do with how others perceive them.
I call 'em as I see 'em, it's as simple as that. I will admit I'm not one for diplomatic sentences, or putting a cherry on top of my comments in order for people to feel better; that's just not how I do things. And people tend to appreciate that. Even if it shocked them initially. At least, that's what they tell me.
When I call a girl fat, then she looks fat to me in whatever she's wearing; the clothes do not flatter her in my opinion. When I call her skinny, it's the exact same thing. That has nothing to do with her self-image; if it does, then she's got a problem. It's in the definition of the word, you know;
self-image. It's your own personal opinion of your own physical appearance, not other people's opinion on your own appearance.
There's really only so many times you can hear a description of yourself as "having the body of a 10 year-old boy" before it starts to hurt.
I had a girlfriend once who had some sort of growth problem; she was 18, but looked as if she was barely in her teens; she was very small. It didn't matter to me; even though it didn't work out, she still remains one of my sweetest ex-girlfriends and she's the only one I still think about sometimes.
But I can sort of relate to you about "having the body of a 10 year-old boy"; people threw comments like that at her, as well. And at me, whenever I walked with her; one even had the guts to come up to me and basically called me a pedophile in my face. I believe you when you say comments like that hurt.
However, comments like that are in a whole different league compared to comments like "you're fat" or a simple "you're skinny". If a woman can't handle "you're fat", she's got issues. But comments like "you look like a child", that's a whole different story. Most people can do something about too much weight (too little weight is a different story); but you can't realistically do much about large you are, how big your boobs are or how old you look. Clothing and makeup only go so far.