Friends with Benefits?

[the 4th hanson bro]

^

Never had "friends with benefits".

I find the concept of "f*ck buddies" rather pathetic and shallow to be honest. It's like putting intimacy (and sex) on the same level as Monopoly or Trivial Pursuit.
"So what shall we do tonight? Wanna play cards?"
"Nah, let's have sex instead, you know, just to kill some time."

Bah.

And what do you do 5 minutes later?

Or is that just me?

Have I said too much?

Oh, it was some random comment during D&D one night...something about men sleeping with small women to make their dicks look big, and Sarah's character is a half-orc and was sleeping with a small human male, so naturally our DM said it was to make her vagina look bigger. From then on, Sarah's reasoning for everything was "to make my vagina look bigger!" And half of the table talk is how much we can fit in there...

Ah, a Pouch of Unlimited Contents.

A woman went to her ob-gyn for a check up. During the course of the exam, he told her she had the largest vagina he'd ever seen. When she got home, she stripped down and put a mirror on the floor to check. Her husband came in and saw her crouched down on the floor. He asked her what she was doing and after she told him, he said "Just be careful you don't fall into that hole in the floor".

 

[Hermiod]

I find the concept of "f*ck buddies" rather pathetic and shallow to be honest. It's like putting intimacy (and sex) on the same level as Monopoly or Trivial Pursuit.

Well, it's better than Solitaire.

/looks at Nintendo DS
/looks at 42 All Time Classics
/notices 842 games of Solitaire completed.

 

[Sheep]

I'm currently in such a situation. It's great! No expectations, no flowers or card, no phone calls just to let them know you're "thinkin' about 'em".

Very efficient and business like. She comes over, I fix a drink, we chat a bit about our day and one of us says "Let's do this!".

And then we do.

Do what?

Put on makeup together?

 

[Saturn0660]

Unless you're in love with someone, sex is on the same level as Monopoly or Trivial Pursuit.

Actually, I hate Monopoly, so sex is way better than Monopoly.

You're just not building the hotels in the right places.

I was going to make a joke about my roommate's giant vagina here, then realised it probably wouldn't make any sense to anyone else...

If she wants the sides to feel They can come to the middle.

 

[RoJoHen]

So many of you are having so much more sex than I am.

 

[RAMA]

^

Never had "friends with benefits".

I find the concept of "f*ck buddies" rather pathetic and shallow to be honest. It's like putting intimacy (and sex) on the same level as Monopoly or Trivial Pursuit.
"So what shall we do tonight? Wanna play cards?"
"Nah, let's have sex instead, you know, just to kill some time."

Bah.

This sort of thing is staggeringly common in the US. I've had my share of "FWBs" and it really works amazingly well! There are simply people (women in my case) that you know are never going to be part of a long term relationship, but you want to continue seeing them and are attracted in some way. It works out for everyone! I honestly don't see why you don't "get it".

RAMA

 

[RAMA]

So many of you are having so much more sex than I am.

You need to expose your tattoo more!

 

[RoJoHen]

So many of you are having so much more sex than I am.

You need to expose your tattoo more!

To whom? The drunken whores at the bars?

 

[RAMA]

So many of you are having so much more sex than I am.

You need to expose your tattoo more!

To whom? The drunken whores at the bars?

If you don't know the answer than that's prob why you're not having more sex!

RAMA

 

[ria 75]

Merging with "TrekBBS Crushes" Thread....

Not really. But wouldn't that be funny?

You're a wicked man.

We should just get it over with and organize a TrekBBS orgy. I mean, we're all thinking it, right?
Right?

Moving to "Meet-Ups" Forum....

That's what I'm saying.

Although it's true that I am pretty pathetic , it wasn't like that when I did it. It was a physical expression of the type of love you share with friends. That's one of the reasons I don't like defining it in terms like "friends with benefits" or "fuck buddies", because that does make it sound pathetic and shallow.

Call it "physically close friends".
Truth is there are all kinds of intimacy. Many degrees. And I suppose there can be (should be) some sort of emotional attachment, if it can't be actual romance with that person one is attracted to. Without it, it's like Monopoly as you guys said (except you don't have the monopoly on them ), with the risk of awkwardness. At that rate, who needs a partner? They better be good lovers. A trivial pursuit indeed.

I'm addicted to solitaire. Whenever I'm sitting at my computer, that's what I'm doing. Literally can't keep my hands off it.

You know how this sounds, don't you?

 

[Philo]

^ I do.

And thanks, you said pretty well what I was trying to say.

So many of you are having so much more sex than I am.

Truth be told, I didn't sleep with anybody until I was 19 and I've only had a handful of partners in the six years since then. I'm not one for trivial pursuit relations, as it were. Tried it a couple of times, didn't really work out if you catch my drift. In the absence of any emotional connection and familiarity, I suppose it's just easier to play solitaire.

 

[Alpha Romeo]

Shit, my marriage barely had benefits.

Shit man, I AM married and there are NO benefits (it's a health issue thing).

It'd be nice to have friends that could... uh... help out. But down that road lies danger, so... no.

Is she unable or are you?? I'd talk that out if you're never able to have it again. Maybe something could be worked out, a dont ask dont tell thing.

 

[Kemaiku]

One or two last year during a manic period after someone walked out, it didn't end well nor does it sound like it ever does.

 

[Emher]

Ugh I would love a friend with benifits right now! I don't have nearly enough energy or time for a serious relationship at the moment, but the sexual urge needs some draining (or something)! I know way to few girls to have a shot at that though, even though I'm actually unsure wheter or not one of them is grooming me to be a friend with benifits or just friend. The fact that I'm unsure, makes it morelikely to be the latter, but a man can dream...

 

[Australis]

Shit, my marriage barely had benefits.

Shit man, I AM married and there are NO benefits (it's a health issue thing).

It'd be nice to have friends that could... uh... help out. But down that road lies danger, so... no.

Is she unable or are you?? I'd talk that out if you're never able to have it again. Maybe something could be worked out, a dont ask dont tell thing.

As she's a full on Christian... no. I'd say it'll resolve eventually. But that's a tale for another day.

Aaaand on that note, a song for everybody here:
TISM - Everyone Else Has Had More Sex Than Me
http://de.youtube.com/watch?v=HjcASvL-7ck

 

[JonathonWally]

I'm addicted to solitaire. Whenever I'm sitting at my computer, that's what I'm doing. Literally can't keep my hands off it.

I was going to make a subtle inquiry about this metaphor, but it seems I was...beaten to the punch?

 

[PKTrekGirl]

I had a 'friend with benefits' once.

One of the best relationships I've ever had. If I still lived in Alaska, we'd probably STILL be 'friends with benefits'.

It's kinda fun to get a call in the middle of the night "Erm...can I come over?"

Also, it didn't hurt that the guy looked like Joe Flannigan. BABY!

 

[Philo]

I'm addicted to solitaire. Whenever I'm sitting at my computer, that's what I'm doing. Literally can't keep my hands off it.

I was going to make a subtle inquiry about this metaphor, but it seems I was...beaten to the punch?

I was trying to be subtle.

 

[Bears Discover Fire]

I've never had a friends with benefits arrangement; too bad because they sound fun if both partners are on the same page.

I'm far too fickle in who I find sexually attractive, I guess.

 

[RoJoHen]

Truth be told, I didn't sleep with anybody until I was 19 and I've only had a handful of partners in the six years since then. I'm not one for trivial pursuit relations, as it were. Tried it a couple of times, didn't really work out if you catch my drift. In the absence of any emotional connection and familiarity, I suppose it's just easier to play solitaire.

I didn't sleep with anybody until I was 21. It only happened the one time, and it's been 2.5 years since I've done anything else.

I haven't even drunkenly made out with anybody! It's amazing how life changes when you stop living on a college campus.