Better than being told to suck it up and deal with it and bury those feelings deep down.
Oh, wait, I forgot; this is Star Trek. Bury those feelings!
I get that, but I think the problem is dealing with those feelings during a crisis. Starfleet officers are supposed to be professionals, and being professional means dealing with the current crisis first and then dealing with feelings after. Otherwise, lives can be lost. This is actually one of my other issues with DISCO.