And yet years later she still has feelings for Spock. So makes her also a hypocrite
Wait a second. Since Chapel already knows that things with Spock aren't going anywhere, thanks to Boimler, isn't she making the correct decision? Girl can't sit around forever waiting for a man who isn't actually going to choose to be with her.
Yeah, this does set up one of those paradox things -- if Chapel refuses to accept what she heard, maybe things go some other way. But she didn't, and they won't.