Indeed. My biggest frustration with talking with fans is the double standards and the lack of reflection on them.For the majority of cases: I don't think most people are aware they're being sexist. They're being sexist without realizing it. I don't think most are ill-intentioned. It's just the effect of cultural programming that our society is still overcoming even to this day.
For me, I like reflecting upon my fan attitudes, even ones long held.