Honestly I think the Visitor is crap. Yeah there's something nice about Jake and Sisco's relationship buried under all that crap, but that doesn't change the fact that there's a big old heap of stinking, steaming crap o top of it.
First of all I hate stories about writers (and plays about playwrights or the maki g of plays and such) it just seems too navel gazing and self-indulgent to me.
Second of all...the clichés...good god the clichés; brilliant but reclusive and aging, naturally male writer(tm) who hasn't written in years even though the whole galaxy is begging him for new material on their knees even if it was just his laundry list(tm) is visited by a plucky "passionate", naturally female aspiring author (tm) who is naturally enamoured with him (tm, that's also why the author has to be male and the plucky fangirl female so that the story can indulge in self-congratulory, hetero-normative wishfulfillment) and opens up to her because he finds her hot and rediscovers the passion he thought was lost (tm)
Screw this episode.
Hmmm, could her enamoring of him (of course, "May to December" doesn't sound like my idea of fun either...) be the reason she doesn't call the funny farm to say a nutjob is having suicidal ideations? She's so into him, or at least so gullible, she buys into his claims? That can happen in real life too, but maybe if Jake looked 30 and not 300... but this is a Roddenberryism, when he crafted his 24th century, do people just go all Beatles songs and "love is all you need" each other at the drop of a hat, no matter if they're that old and likely to die from a heart attack at precisely the wrong moment? And it's not on the Edo planet?!
If the aspiring writer were another male, would the episode really be any different? (I'm bi, can see it both ways, and can see how either way it wouldn't be significantly different.)
It's an episode I can't just stick on to kill an hour, I really need to be in the right headspace for this one. It's Tony Todds best performance in anything I've seen him in and in my Top 5 Avery Brooks performances too. And, the older I get, the more it resonates.
That's what gets me as well. I'll forget about the episode's details as I find the shiny new trinket to play with... then in a decade, do another viewing round, sit through this one, then cry enough to replenish all that disappeared during the drought (by the seashore).
As much as I am not fond of aspects of this episode, it still has moments of observation that seem inescapable. Maybe that's another reason...