Good lord, if I could get away with that I'd do it in a heartbeatIn my experience most adults tend to function at the level of high school students in any case.
Question for Introverts
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Introverts Unite!
(separately, in your own homes)
(separately, in your own homes)
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One type of extrovert can be a real detriment to a work environment. Back when I used to write contracts for the USCG, there were some people who loved to hang out around another person's cube (a person who was trying to concentrate on writing a contract or researching regulations, for instance). They just hang out there, uninvited, and yak and yak and yak about everything and nothing. They are just so happy to blather and destroy all concentration under the onslaught of their happy chatter because they are so darn outgoing. Finally, to discourage serial blabberers, I invested in noise canceling headphones and cranked up some Lenny Kravitz.
The cubicle farm is hell for introverts!
I'm probably luckier than most in this thread, as I'm from Finland, one of the few countries where introversion is more or less the norm. This is changing, though, but we're generally comfortable with long silences, for example.
Introversion vs. extraversion is a spectrum, very few people are at either extreme, most are somewhere near the middle.
I enjoy the company of others, but it is draining and I recharge alone. I need lots and lots of alone time, one reason why my husband and I decided that one child was just right for us. That said, too much is too much, I'm not a hermit.
I'm probably luckier than most in this thread, as I'm from Finland, one of the few countries where introversion is more or less the norm. This is changing, though, but we're generally comfortable with long silences, for example.
Introversion vs. extraversion is a spectrum, very few people are at either extreme, most are somewhere near the middle.
I enjoy the company of others, but it is draining and I recharge alone. I need lots and lots of alone time, one reason why my husband and I decided that one child was just right for us. That said, too much is too much, I'm not a hermit.
Time-suckers, I call them. If you had an analog watch, you could look down and watch the hands just start wheeling around like in an old movie, to show time just fleeing you.
At work, there is one person we will help each other with, if we see she has latched on, we'll interrupt and apologize but "I really need to talk to XYZ for a minute. . . ." Then she goes, you shoot some bull, thank your rescuer, then pass it on when you see someone else being blabbed to death. Either that or if I'm alone, I'll get me jar and go get a drink of water; it leads her out of my classroom.
I do highly recommend that Introvert's corner blog I posted near the top. It has all sort of humorous tips if you start scrolling.
Change of topic: One way it's held me back, weirdly, is that I really never feel lonely. I was often by myself as a kid (only child), and it just feels, well, right. I've got a recent psych today magazine with a cover story about loneliness epidemic and I just don't think I know that feeling everyone is rightly concerned about.
I am really enjoying a thread not about how bad Discovery or Last Jedi is, by the way!
I wish all of you peace and well-being.Time-suckers, I call them. If you had an analog watch, you could look down and watch the hands just start wheeling around like in an old movie, to show time just fleeing you.
At work, there is one person we will help each other with, if we see she has latched on, we'll interrupt and apologize but "I really need to talk to XYZ for a minute. . . ." Then she goes, you shoot some bull, thank your rescuer, then pass it on when you see someone else being blabbed to death. Either that or if I'm alone, I'll get me jar and go get a drink of water; it leads her out of my classroom.
I do highly recommend that Introvert's corner blog I posted near the top. It has all sort of humorous tips if you start scrolling.
Change of topic: One way it's held me back, weirdly, is that I really never feel lonely. I was often by myself as a kid (only child), and it just feels, well, right. I've got a recent psych today magazine with a cover story about loneliness epidemic and I just don't think I know that feeling everyone is rightly concerned about.
I am really enjoying a thread not about how bad Discovery or Last Jedi is, by the way!
As with most things, loneliness impacts people differently perhaps introverts are less impacted because they like alone time (more) whilst extraverts need to be around other people (more).
I've been a introvert my entire life. Always shy. Alot had to do with growing up early with a mean abusive step-dad so I spent most of my time just staying inside my room. Never really knew how to talk to people and still not really good at it but I do understand how to be pleasant and friendly so i've never really ever had anyone out their that even hates me. I just don't know how to open up with people because I have trust issues.
DIdn't help that the main job I had as a newspaper carrier was just me by myself out in a truck for 13 years. Even today I still have fantasies or daydreams were I am basically the only person around because I still have tons of family drama even today. Granted I am someone who lets real world logic often get in the away of daydreams so I will imagine myself stuck in somekind of time bubble or living on a alien planet in my house simply because I don't like the idea of everyone dying and me being the only person left.
It does give you time to think about stuff. Combine that with no job because of being on disability you can really create a very active imagination.
Jason
DIdn't help that the main job I had as a newspaper carrier was just me by myself out in a truck for 13 years. Even today I still have fantasies or daydreams were I am basically the only person around because I still have tons of family drama even today. Granted I am someone who lets real world logic often get in the away of daydreams so I will imagine myself stuck in somekind of time bubble or living on a alien planet in my house simply because I don't like the idea of everyone dying and me being the only person left.
It does give you time to think about stuff. Combine that with no job because of being on disability you can really create a very active imagination.
Jason
I was married. My husband died though.
But when we got married I told him that sometimes I just need to ge alone. I told him that it didn't mean I was mad or sad or even thinking about anything important, just that I needed to be alone.
He was much more of a social person than I was.
I also have a really good friend that I have know since like 1996. I explained to her about how I often just need to be alone.
She is pretty much the opposite, but by knowing me it helped her understand how her girlfriend, lover actually, could not want to be around her and others.
That helped both her and I, as I'd imagined that I was the only person or in a rare minority that felt this way.
I'm definitely no extrovert, but I don't think I'm an introvert either. Maybe I'm just a Vert...
^since you're also a Trekkie, does that make you HerbVert? 
*runs*
*runs*
^since you're also a Trekkie, does that make you HerbVert?
I actually had to think about that one for a minute...
It's not easy being green.
^God, it's been ages since I last heard that sentence. I take it you're a Kermit-fan, too? 
Now I am extroverted in public and easily make contact and friends. I am a pacifist but if necessary I can strike out at an opponent rather impressively (if I may say so myself). In private life, I curl up on my comfy sofa with a good book or some classical music, a cup of tea and a box of chocolates.
So I'm an extrovert when necessary and an introvert the rest of the time. The best of both ~verts
I used to be extremely introverted and got mistreated, bullied and trolled. Then I decided that this had to end and I had to show unmistakably that an introvert is not necessarily a coward or a born victim.
Now I am extroverted in public and easily make contact and friends. I am a pacifist but if necessary I can strike out at an opponent rather impressively (if I may say so myself). In private life, I curl up on my comfy sofa with a good book or some classical music, a cup of tea and a box of chocolates.
So I'm an extrovert when necessary and an introvert the rest of the time. The best of both ~verts
I am largely an introvert, luckily I have a job (school custodian) that lets me be by myself most of the time, I generally avoid employee gatherings, but that's only because I find them intolerable situations. Pot lucks, retirement receptions, etc. I avoid. Much more content eating alone, and working alone. Much prefer to do repairs and such when no one is around. Used to have an employee that would always come around when I would be working on a project, would always criticize how I was doing a repair ("Well I would do it like this...and then do this...yadda yadda") was incredibly annoying.
Required functions like staff meetings aren't much of an issue, I can pretend, and put on a b.s. facade for a few hours. Same with interviews (was promoted into a supervisory position) and I can b.s. and such. Not entirely b.s. though, I just lay out my credentials and let my work ethic speak for itself.
I always thought being introverted would hold me back, but it seems it has been a benefit, to most I probably just appear to be laid back.
Required functions like staff meetings aren't much of an issue, I can pretend, and put on a b.s. facade for a few hours. Same with interviews (was promoted into a supervisory position) and I can b.s. and such. Not entirely b.s. though, I just lay out my credentials and let my work ethic speak for itself.
I always thought being introverted would hold me back, but it seems it has been a benefit, to most I probably just appear to be laid back.
As long as you're not a perVert, whatever other kind of vert you are is ok.^since you're also a Trekkie, does that make you HerbVert?
LOL we really must invite Vert-eron to this thread!
I think everyone who is curageous enough to publicly post in a thread about introversion would propably not fit the classical definition of an introvert.
Maybe nobody is an introvert all the time?
I think everyone who is curageous enough to publicly post in a thread about introversion would propably not fit the classical definition of an introvert.
Maybe nobody is an introvert all the time?
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