Actually not a bad idea
Thoughts on women proposing to men
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So a possibility here is to have one of those heart to heart talks about marriage, and end with "i would really like you to propose to me."
Of course, there's absolutely nothing wrong with just proposing yourself, if thats what you think is best. Like Steven said, there could be a number of silly reasons why he won't propose, and it could be one of those human psyche thingies he just needs to get over.
Yes, it's expensive. I was lucky to find a very affordable babysitter, and then an affordable preschool, my oldest is going into kindergarten next year. It's so tough, emotionally, financially, etc, but the wife and i are already talking about having another - as soon as we can move to a bigger place. It's not for everyone but I wouldn't give it up for anything.
for poops and giggles I've been looking into prices around me, the cheapest I saw was $1200 a month
I have absolutely no problem with women proposing to men. I literally don’t see the issue. 
I actually wish my last GF had proposed to me (instead of hounding me mercilessly and guilting me into doing it). It would have given me an excellent opportunity to say no.
Sophie, I say go ahead and ask. His reaction will tell you all you need to know.
I actually wish my last GF had proposed to me (instead of hounding me mercilessly and guilting me into doing it). It would have given me an excellent opportunity to say no.
Sophie, I say go ahead and ask. His reaction will tell you all you need to know.
But it’s not forever. It’s crippling, but it’s a phase.for poops and giggles I've been looking into prices around me, the cheapest I saw was $1200 a month
Suddenly, one day expensive things like nappies stop, and they start going to school, and, okay, you still pay after school club till 6pm, but even after swimming lessons, music lessons and karate classes, you still have money left over for cinema and the like, because you’re so used to having no money at all, and eventually, one of them at least, will sit still long enough to watch Star Wars on the big screen.
The other thing of course is the assumption that kids come naturally, they bloody well don’t, not guaranteed.
Two years has become comfortable. Even if you do become engaged that might go on for another two years. I can't help but think that after two years if the endgame is marriage but he hasn't made the move then he doesn't want to.
I would ask him and then you would know.
Lol, (the opportunity to say 'no' partI have absolutely no problem with women proposing to men. I literally don’t see the issue.
I actually wish my last GF had proposed to me (instead of hounding me mercilessly and guilting me into doing it). It would have given me an excellent opportunity to say no.
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My wife and I have kept our money separate for our entire marriage (26 years). I think it is one of the reasons we've lasted so long!
Everything is balanced out proportionately to our income (I make a lot more than she does). The mortgage comes out of her checking account every month, I write her a check for "my share" of it before the due date.
I pay the household bills (gas, electric, satellite, internet, etc.). She pays the insurance premiums.I write a check to Verizon for my phone and my son's phone and she writes a check for the rest. I pay for my daughter's car and her student loans. Etc. etc.
This all came about because we met after college. We had our own debt, our own car loans, etc. Then we lived together, and just paid our share of everything. That worked for us so we kept it going. We have rarely fought about money, because it's all rational and proportional. I make about 66% of the money, I pay about 66% of the bills.
Easy peasy.
It's interesting to see how different everyone's views on money are. My ex and i shared all the money and that was the one thing we never disagreed on. Of all our issues money was never one of them
Ok you guys, we have a date night tonight. Nice restaurant then Deadpool after.
I think I'm gunna do it.
I think I'm gunna do it.
Good luck!
I need to find a ringpop
Well, I hope you and Deadpool have a wonderful wedding and a lifetime of joy and happiness together.
But seriously, it seems you've already decided to ask tonight, so I'll just echo what the others have said about it being perfectly fine for you to propose to him, and wish you and your significant other the best of luck.
Thanks guys 
Best of luck with your proposal Sophie!
Oh dear I just have such a hard time wrapping my head around that @1001001! You're so right @Sophie74656 how interesting it is we all have such different views of money! I think what I'd like to do in an equal partnership marriage is pool everything together, then put money in savings, then pay all our bills and expenses, then split what's left for free money? I'd like each of us to have the same amount, even if he earns less than me, and I'd like to feel like all our money is sort of ours? That's just my philosophy I think, oh I so know different things work for different people!
Oh dear Sophie I wish you every warmest thought for tonight! You're going to have such a magical evening!
Oh dear Sophie I wish you every warmest thought for tonight! You're going to have such a magical evening!
Good luck!
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