There are also the quiet ones that don't like it but don't want to say anything as they don't want to be shouted down by an overwhelming majority and simply don't feel it worth getting into a fight over it.
Like me.
This.
I woke up this morning and had found the perfect word to explain what's going on.
Keep in mind a lot of fans are OLD like me. They aren't sexist (though they do use sexist terms), they are
conservative. They don't like change. Or more accurately, in a life of constant change, they like some certainties. And, in a way, a role model has been removed, especially in Capaldi. Despite terrible stories, he was their guy. Now he's gone, and we/they have to adapt yet again to change, big change.
I say "we/they", because if there is one thing I have
never saw myself as, it's conservative, so I try at every turn to embrace change. Right now in Australia we are having a massive debate re coal power vs renewables. The conservative argument is basically "It works, if it ain't broke..." while not acknowledging the levels of pollution are unsustainable. I can't wait for renewables to grab a permanent, stable foothold. But there are those that fear change.
Fear change.
Now, for guys like me, role models (and yes, we still need them) are a guide to being a better person... and we have one less. Gender shouldn't matter but it
does. Who's my role model now? Frank Underwood? People become fans because they get something from the characters.
I give you a hypothetical. In a brain-snap of epic proportions, DC decides Wonder Woman should become Wonder Man, Dion of Themiscyra. Shield, bracelets, lasso, but a costume closer to Cap's. They come up with all 'valid' reasons for it (see: Thor). Women across America would gather at DC's headquarters and literally raze it. Of course they would. It is a change they would not embrace.
And now old white guys are expected, yet again, to roll over, at the risk of being called sexist.
I've always seen myself as a progressive, but I'm
old now. This one is a little harder. Frankly it feels like it's something being taken from me. You can poopoo that, but just run the above hypothetical through your mind and see how you'd feel. Don't tell me you'd be happy. But, as I said, I try to be progressive, so I'm going to embrace this, as I always try to do. Just remember, some guys find it hard to change.
Why shouldn't they? To just dismiss them as sexist is cruel and as sexist as you claim.
(Man, I wish I'd come up with this argument pages ago).
TL;DR: it's not about sexism, it' just being conservative.