If Kes and Tom had ended up together, would it have also been seen as creepy? Despite being younger than Neelix (relatively speaking), Tom would have still been way older than Kes. Since her species lived 9 years, I think she was the equivalent of 20 something at age 2. I think he had guilt about not serving in the war. And also about not being with his family when they died. Guilt coming at him from both sides.