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Why are women always so busy?
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It is good advice, it is just hard to hear. Life stinks sometimes, it doesn't go the way I want it
The good news is there are literally BILLIONS of women in the world. If you fixate on one who isn't interested then you'll miss out on other opportunities. Somone is bound to say "yes" eventually - especially if in the meantime you work on making yourself more "yesable". (That's not to say you're not but in some ways we can all be more so.)
These gender threads are gettin' crazy. Soon we'll have race threads andthings will be out of control.
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According to the best seller "Outliers" it's because of rice cultivation. Who knew?
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Nobody's asian in the movies,
Nobody's asian on TV,
If there is a part there for us,
It's a ninja, a physician, or a goofy mathematician,
Or a groupie in the chorus,
That's me.....
Anyone? Do you know if she's blowing everyone off, or are you just going on what she's telling you?
I think she's just blowing you off. I could be wrong. Put the ball in her court, let her know you get that she's "busy" and that she should give you a holler if she wants to hang out sometime. If she doesn't call you, soon, move on.
Yep, the "I'm busy" routine is one of the age-old blow-offs. It's certainly possible that she is genuinely so busy that she has no time for socialization, but I doubt it.
If she's blowing him off, the feeble "I'm busy" excuse is rather lame. I think people should be more honest and direct, though I'm reconsidering after receiving a "let's be platonic" text message last week...which was very lame. I called her up this week to clear the air and she still wants to spend time with me, but presumably with a lateral shift to the "friend latter." Yay. I'll be seeing her at a party tonight, so we'll see what happens.
You got it over text message? Wow. You should certainly tell her that that ain't kosher.
Well, not to wrest (too much) focus from the OP, but I did call her up mainly for that purpose, though I gave myself about a week so I wouldn't be accusatory/angry/stupid on the phone. We had a good talk, so I think we're past the awkwardness. Exactly where that puts us now, I don't know.
I had a girl try that with me a few years ago. And she waited until I was out of town to do it. She saw relationships as a game more than anything else, alays having a strategy to try and stay in control. I found a solution I was happy with.
I went back home as soon as I read the text, went straight to her house, kissed her as soon as she opened the door and spent the night.
I broke up with her by text the next morning.
Vindictive. Cruel. But I don't like losing the game. Oddly enough we're drinking buddies now.
Yeah...I'm not willing to be that much of a jerk. At the party, she started off not that receptive to me, but seemed more so at the end, particularly when I walked her to her car and gave her a kiss.
All this isn't a game to me; I just like her, that's all. If that makes me a friggin' dinosaur when it comes to relationships, so be it.
Yeah...I'm not willing to be that much of a jerk. At the party, she started off not that receptive to me, but seemed more so at the end, particularly when I walked her to her car and gave her a kiss.
All this isn't a game to me; I just like her, that's all. If that makes me a friggin' dinosaur when it comes to relationships, so be it.
I wish I could find that again. Most of the women I meet just play the games. My friends wife is the worst case though - she often says "If you can't do this for me, I'll find someone who can."
It seems a lot of people where I am feel as if they have a right to be immature and treat others like crap. A lot of them even take pride in it - one I broke up with tried to justify it with the ever wonderful line 'I'm a selfish cow, deal with it'. Every now and then I'll respond, most times I have to roll my eyes and walk away.
People always act better when alone - so I can understand that she was more receptive when alone with you, I hope you get more of that (even if I sound more bitter than I am)
No need to apologize for being bitter; we all have our reasons.
I'm honestly agnostic as to what my future chances are, but I'd like to see how this plays out. She's generally a pretty down-to-earth and straightforward person, so games really aren't her thing. That's a big plus for me as I have such a low tolerance for bullshit (such as the "I'm busy" feeble excuses being levied at the OP).
I'm honestly agnostic as to what my future chances are, but I'd like to see how this plays out. She's generally a pretty down-to-earth and straightforward person, so games really aren't her thing. That's a big plus for me as I have such a low tolerance for bullshit (such as the "I'm busy" feeble excuses being levied at the OP).
i dont know from the above it sounds like you buy back into the playing the games part..
as for brent..
i am still curious just how much was he aware of her life.
was there any reason such as elderly relatives, work stuff, volunteer stuff..
that she might be busy.
how much has he listened to her talk about what was going on in her life.
i have this happen.
guys complain about how the girls they want to go out with are busy.
but the seemed to be clueless that the girls were dealing with a lot of personal stuff.
i am not saying this is going on here but it is something that can be asked.
Well, what is she busy with? Work? Did her washing machine or car break down? Is she taking care of a child or elderly parent? Even if she's just more interested in spending time with people other than you, I guarantee you she's not just 'too busy to spend time with anyone else'.
By and large, women are still spending more time taking care of the house and the people in it than men are, even if both spouses work full-time jobs - at least in Canada and the United States. Obviously not every couple works like this, but it's generally true according to most surveys released in the past decade.
Wow, man. Cold but awesome all the same.
